Daddy against our marriage

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Registered: 02-27-2007
Daddy against our marriage
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Tue, 02-27-2007 - 1:23pm

Hi everyone,

My boyfriend has recurring lymhoma. He proposed to me a few days ago, but my dad is really worried. In fact, he is totally against our marriage. I'm his only daughter and he says he doesn't want me to suffer with a sick person! Worse he says that because of the chemo, my bf might have become impotent!

I love my boyfriend. I really want to marry him. I didn't give him a definite answer, but just by looking at my face he could tell it is a YES!

We are a traditional family, who are so close-knit, so I can't just go against my father's will and marry behind his back. I have to get my bf to meet my father.

However, I'm so worried about this meeting. I know daddy could easily lash out and hurt his feelings.

Is there a way to convince my father about it?

What should I do? :(

Broken-hearted,
Jen

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 03-01-2007 - 5:56pm

Hi JenThen


I have kids and recently have had to talk about this situation.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Registered: 04-18-2006
Thu, 03-08-2007 - 11:34pm

Hi Jen, if you want to marry him, explain that to your father. Tell him how much you love him and respect his wishes. But also explain how much you love your BF, how much you will love him married or unmarried as he goes through the cancer, that you want as much of a life with him as God is willing to give you, etc. Be honest and go with your heart.


Much love.



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