Final days of Grandmothers Battle

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Registered: 01-06-2005
Final days of Grandmothers Battle
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Tue, 03-06-2007 - 11:31am
Hi, I am new here. My grandmother has been fighting cancer for about 5 years now. It started in her lungs and has spread all over now. About two months ago the doctor told us there was nothing more he could do. He gave her a coupl of months to live. The hospice care has been great and the nurse told us yeterday that all of my granmothers systems are starting to shut down. I have so many questions but hate to ask my family about them. Maybe someone here can help me with the questions. I am wondering how long now she has? What will happen in the next few days or week? I am just so sad and having a hard time. My grandmother is the most amazing person I have ever known. Her faith and courage through this whole thing have been amazing! I guess I was jsut wanting to talk with other people who have the same emotions and may have been through this before!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 03-08-2007 - 1:03pm

(((((((((((wishforbaby)))))))))


I am sorry you have to face this.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Registered: 04-18-2006
Thu, 03-08-2007 - 10:16pm

Hi love, first let me give you hugs. Your grandmother feels no pain, her body is simply shutting down. She could pass today or in a week. Sometimes they wait...wait for someone, or something, its a phenomin we can never understand. My grandfather told me two weeks before he died that he loved me, was proud of me and he was sorry he had to go. I called my dad a week later and said, its going to happen, you must come. He got there another week later at 10am. They called me at 4 to tell me it was time. I went to his house, said my goodbye and when his daughter came at 4:30 and said her goodbyes, she was the last one that needed to be there. He took his last breath within a few minutes.


In the next few days/weeks, her body is shutting down slowly, painlessly, quietly. There is nothing anyone can do to fix it, nothing you can do other than hold her hand and love her.


My grandfather died June 4, 1999. I will never forget that day and neither will you forget the day she passes. They leave an imprint on your heart and your life that is unchanging! I live my life everyday with the knowledge that he was so strong and so faithful. Look to her as a source of strength and love and carry her. She will carry you always.



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