mum has cancer

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Registered: 02-23-2007
mum has cancer
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Thu, 04-12-2007 - 5:21pm

we found out my mum has breast cancer in jan this year, she has decided on no treatment and the docs cant tell us how long she has.

i am supporting her as much as i can emotionaly and physically and seemed to be copeing well until this week, then i just fell apart and i cant pull myself together. i know this is normal but can not cope with this, my husband seems to think that i am doing too much and need to rely on him more, but he thinks her decsion is wrong and has said so to me.

i have said this does not help me and not what i want to hear, and i just feel he is wrong and out of order.
he says he is there to support me but i just feel he is not and she is all i have and i feel when she goes
i will have lost the one person who knows me and cares about me more than anyone else.

i feel it is so unfair that she is going to die and go through this suffering
i dont know what i am trying to say but i just feel i need to get it out, does anyone understand how i feel and have any advice.

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In reply to: lou_1978
Sat, 04-14-2007 - 1:27pm

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Registered: 09-07-2005
In reply to: lou_1978
Tue, 04-17-2007 - 12:45pm

Hi there. I too am 28 and I am in the exact situation that you are. Except I am a single mom and my mom and I have been so close for years. She was a single mom too. So we always had each others back. The whole thing is just heartbreaking. My mom is a tough as nails woman and it's so hard to see her hurting. I don't know what to do and I feel like I'm just holding the fort, barely. So I just wanted to say you're not alone. I just found out about this message board but I will be back. Stay strong and support her wishes. I think that's the hardest part but our mom's still need their decisions respected. I'm certain it wasn't an easy decision for her. My heart goes out to you.

Cody

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Tue, 04-17-2007 - 11:46pm

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