My mom passed away yesterday

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Registered: 09-07-2005
My mom passed away yesterday
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Tue, 05-29-2007 - 12:46pm

So yesterday I got the call to go to the hospice. My mom's health had just nose dived since I had seen her Saturday night. I walked in on a totally different person. I had a split second instinct to turn and run. Instead I walked in, held my mom's hand,stroked her hair and kissed her good bye, I told her she didn't have to fight for us us anymore and that she has taught us well and we'd be okay. I told we didn't want her to hurt any more and she deserved to be pain free from now on. She waited until the hospice worker left us alone and she took her final breath. I haven't posted a lot on here but I have been on this board, reading other posts and it helped me realize that there were others out there who felt the same way I did, angry, helpless, defeated. So I thank you all for baring you deepest and most painful thoughts and for helping others ( and I) get through this.
In honor of my beautifully stubborn mother, no more shall you suffer

Cody

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Fri, 06-01-2007 - 2:49pm




Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Sun, 06-03-2007 - 10:24pm

I am so sorry...I don't know what else to say except that your post brought tears to my eyes. My thoughts are with you and your family in this very sad and difficult time, at least she is in a better place now and no longer in pain and suffering.

Sue

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 12:53pm

Oh Cody ...


I am so sorry.

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Wed, 06-20-2007 - 7:38pm
Thank you for your message, how very kind of you. You are so courageous. I don't know what one personally goes through when you have cancer, so I commend you on that. I know its one of the hardest things to watch someone else go through. I just did what I could for her and wanted her to be as happy and as comfortable as she could be. Every day is still hard, I have my two children so they help but it's like having three times the grief, because their pain is also mine. There is so much love and I believe that helps, but I still feel like a I lost a mother and a best friend because we really were close. I do check in with this board because there are people going through what I went through. For me it helped a lot to be on this board, it really does amaze me how many people are touched by this disease. Thank you for your support and best wishes to you and congrats on beating breast cancer.
Take care,
Cody
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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 2:23am

Hello Sue


Thank you for stopping in and giving hugs.


Philly

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 2:27am

Hi Shari


Thank you for being there for Cody.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 2:32am

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Hi Cody


I am glad to see you posting.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 11:00pm

No problem Cody.