Father has been given 1-3 months..

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Registered: 06-23-2007
Father has been given 1-3 months..
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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 5:49pm
I don't know what to do... I don't know what to say really either, i guess i just need to talk to someone about how i feel, but half the time i don't know how i feel.
He's only 52.. it just doesn't seem right, our family has been through so much the past couple of years and now this, i don't know how to face it, i cant cry even though i want to. dad is serious half the time, then makes stupid jokes about how he wont be around for much longer.
i have only had one death in the family, and i didn't really know that person very well, so i haven't had this.
And how do you deal when someone gives you a time?
i guess i just need someone to listen...
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Sat, 06-23-2007 - 9:16pm

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Registered: 11-02-2006
Mon, 06-25-2007 - 11:37am
First of all, don't worry so much about the time span of 1 to 3 months. that is just a prediction and miracles do happen. MANY people survive much longer than predicted, so don't lose hope.Just try to spend as much time as you can with your loved one, and instead of focusing on losing him, be happy you are able to be with him. It's hard to hear that your father may not be around a year or even 6 months from now..I know..My Dad is dying too, but what gets me through is knowing that I have been given the chance to show him how much he has meant to me all these years by taking care of him. I am grateful that I have been given the chance to show my appreciation for him as a father.
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Registered: 06-25-2007
Mon, 06-25-2007 - 5:03pm
It always helps to share what you are going through. It can be a blessing to know you have time. You can spend this time with your father, and let him know how much he means to you. Joking could be his way of handling his condition. It could be the way he copes. Just be there for him, and be there for yourself. We are all facing loss every day. That's what these groups are for. Hugs and warm fuzzies to you!! I'll always listen. Keep your energy up.
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Registered: 04-30-2003
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:36am

((((((Sweetie)))))

I can hear the frustration and pain. I too have a dad that has been given 6 months. He isn't able to receive treatments. This month is 6 months, but I see him failing. We have dad in hospice which means we can keep him home with us. I lost my mom in dec of 2004. Dad had 2 strokes in 2005 thats when we moved him 400 miles to live with us and I wouldn't change a thing. I quit my job so I could be with him. That is the most important thing, be with him as much as you can. Talk about everything like the other wonderful ladies here have suggested. Yes, I get frustrated because I can't do what I want when I want. But the rewards will make it all worthwhile. Just knowing your there is a great comfort to your dad. Remember too sweetie this is all new and I was feeling the same way when Dad was first diagnosed. But with a little time i learned to cope and learned how to handle my feelings a little better. One very important thing is take care of yourself, take little breaks. Being a caregiver is very hard, but worth it. Please let us know how your doing.

I almost forgot, my dad does the joke thing too, I use to let it bother me but now I laugh with him. Laughter is great medicine. Yes it is hard in these situations to laugh, but it does help sweetheart.

Love ya
Gail
xoxoxoxoxo