Father has been given 1-3 months..
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Father has been given 1-3 months..
| Sat, 06-23-2007 - 5:49pm |
I don't know what to do... I don't know what to say really either, i guess i just need to talk to someone about how i feel, but half the time i don't know how i feel.
He's only 52.. it just doesn't seem right, our family has been through so much the past couple of years and now this, i don't know how to face it, i cant cry even though i want to. dad is serious half the time, then makes stupid jokes about how he wont be around for much longer.
i have only had one death in the family, and i didn't really know that person very well, so i haven't had this.
And how do you deal when someone gives you a time?
i guess i just need someone to listen...
He's only 52.. it just doesn't seem right, our family has been through so much the past couple of years and now this, i don't know how to face it, i cant cry even though i want to. dad is serious half the time, then makes stupid jokes about how he wont be around for much longer.
i have only had one death in the family, and i didn't really know that person very well, so i haven't had this.
And how do you deal when someone gives you a time?
i guess i just need someone to listen...

Hello
It certainly is a shock when our loved ones receive this type of news.
((((((Sweetie)))))
I can hear the frustration and pain. I too have a dad that has been given 6 months. He isn't able to receive treatments. This month is 6 months, but I see him failing. We have dad in hospice which means we can keep him home with us. I lost my mom in dec of 2004. Dad had 2 strokes in 2005 thats when we moved him 400 miles to live with us and I wouldn't change a thing. I quit my job so I could be with him. That is the most important thing, be with him as much as you can. Talk about everything like the other wonderful ladies here have suggested. Yes, I get frustrated because I can't do what I want when I want. But the rewards will make it all worthwhile. Just knowing your there is a great comfort to your dad. Remember too sweetie this is all new and I was feeling the same way when Dad was first diagnosed. But with a little time i learned to cope and learned how to handle my feelings a little better. One very important thing is take care of yourself, take little breaks. Being a caregiver is very hard, but worth it. Please let us know how your doing.
I almost forgot, my dad does the joke thing too, I use to let it bother me but now I laugh with him. Laughter is great medicine. Yes it is hard in these situations to laugh, but it does help sweetheart.
Love ya
Gail
xoxoxoxoxo