BROTHER WITH COLON CANCER
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BROTHER WITH COLON CANCER
| Wed, 06-27-2007 - 9:17am |
HI,
I AM NOT SURE WHERE TO BEGIN. MY BROTHER HAS STAGE IV COLON CANCER. HE HAS BEEN BATTLING IT FOR 1 1/2 YRS. HE HAD TUMORS REMOVED FROM HIS HEAD AND COLON. HE HAS BEEN ON CHEMO EVER SINCE. HE CHANGED CHEMO TYPES FROM LIQUID TO PILL FORM AND HAS NOW 2 NEW TUMORS IN HIS LUNG AND ONE ON HIS LIVER. I HAVE BEEN SAD FOR A LONG TIME. I THINK OF HIM SEVERAL TIMES A DAY. I LIVE 16 HOURS AWAY FROM HIM AND FEEL HELPLESS. WE TALK ON THE PHONE. I STILL FEEL LIKE CRYING EVERY DAY. HOW DO I STOP GREIVING BEFORE HE IS GONE? I KNOW THIS MUST BE NORMAL I WOULD LOVE TO FIND OUT HOW OTHERS COPE. THANK YOU FOR LISTENING.
CB
I AM NOT SURE WHERE TO BEGIN. MY BROTHER HAS STAGE IV COLON CANCER. HE HAS BEEN BATTLING IT FOR 1 1/2 YRS. HE HAD TUMORS REMOVED FROM HIS HEAD AND COLON. HE HAS BEEN ON CHEMO EVER SINCE. HE CHANGED CHEMO TYPES FROM LIQUID TO PILL FORM AND HAS NOW 2 NEW TUMORS IN HIS LUNG AND ONE ON HIS LIVER. I HAVE BEEN SAD FOR A LONG TIME. I THINK OF HIM SEVERAL TIMES A DAY. I LIVE 16 HOURS AWAY FROM HIM AND FEEL HELPLESS. WE TALK ON THE PHONE. I STILL FEEL LIKE CRYING EVERY DAY. HOW DO I STOP GREIVING BEFORE HE IS GONE? I KNOW THIS MUST BE NORMAL I WOULD LOVE TO FIND OUT HOW OTHERS COPE. THANK YOU FOR LISTENING.
CB

Welcome to the board CB
I am so sorry that your brother has cancer.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR KIND WORDS. MY BROTHER DOES NOT HAVE A COMPUTER. I THINK THAT WOULD MAKE IT MUCH EASIER TO COMUNICATE, BUT HE INSISTS HE DOESN'T NEED OR WANT ONE. I THOUGHT IT WOULD BE A GOOD WAY FOR HIM TO FIND SUPPORT AND FIND OUT THINGS THAT WOULD HELP HIM DEAL WITH CHEMO ECT. HE IS VERY SUBORN AND PROUD SO IT IS HARD TO SUGGEST THINGS WITH OUT HIM GETTING ANGRY. I THINK IT IS THE FEELING OF LOSING CONTROL. I DO HAVE ANOTHER TRIP PLANNED TO SEE HIM IN AUGUST. HE HAD PLANNED TO COME LIVE HERE IN THE WINTER BUT NOW WITH HAVING TO GO BACK ON THE CHEMO BAG HIS TRAVEL IS LIMITED. UNLESS I CAN FIND A DOCTOR HERE THAT CAN DO THE SAME. I AM NOT SURE HOW THAT WOULD WORK. I DO THINK THERE ARE SOME OLD FILM OF US AS KIDS. I BELEIVE HE HAS IT. SO MAYBE I CAN TALK HIM INTO GIVING IT TO ME AND TURNING IT INTO A VCR. HE HAS NO DVD. IF IT WORKS DON'T FIX IT. HE IS QUITE FUNNY. THAT IS ONE THING THAT CHEERS ME UP IS HEARING HIS VOICE AND HIS SENCE OF HUMOR.
WHAT STAGE IS YOUR SON? I KNOW THAT MUST BE VERY HARD AS A MOTHER. I WILL PRAY FOR HIM ALSO. THANKS AGAIN FOR THE KIND WORDS.
CB
CB
I am so glad you are planning a
get together in August.
I feel you are doing everything you
can from a distance away.
Yes, by posting here you just never know
who is reading the board and feels just like
you.
Antidepressants are a good start... My husband is 62 & has had Stage 4 colon CA for 6 years. On & off chemo, radiation, etc. several times a year. Unable to work, very depressed, SICK alot. Not good.
I have no idea what his situation is, but is there any chance you can move your brother closer to you? It's a hassle to find new doctors, etc. but it can be done. There's no substitue for being able to spend time with someone who's dying. Just to sit with him, read to him, listen to music together.
Hope you can find a way to get closer...