Cousin died this morning.
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| Wed, 07-11-2007 - 4:40am |
Hi everyone, I'm new to this board, but not to ivillage. I'm in need of emotional support and a ((hug)).
This afternoon I learned that my cousin died in the early morning hours. He had been diagnosed with cancer and went through a long and terrible illness that lasted a year. He lived with his wife and child. He had married a year and half ago and his child is a year old. He was 38 years of age.
Last week, his family traveled from abroad and FL to be with him in his last days. He had been hospitalized, was intubated and on a respirator. He had pneumonia and encephalitis. His body was invaded with cancer.
My cousin was a brave young man who was optimistic even in the worst of the circumstances. He fought the illness and even in the worst moments he showed positivism. He wanted to live to see his son grow up. I spoke to him about a month and a half ago and he related to me that he felt better. Three weeks later he was in a wheel chair and an MRI discovered a mass in his spinal cord. He went through more treatment, but it was too late and the tumor didn't respond. He was bedridden for a month due to the pain.
My cousin went to the Lord in peace and with his family. He will be remembered dearly by everyone who knew him.
Please pray for his soul or send him a positive thought. He'll be cremated and his family will take his ashes back with them.
Take care and God bless.
Thanks for reading.
Chloe

(((((Chloe))))))
I am so sorry for your loss. He sounds like a wonderful man and that he came from a wonderful caring family. I am sending you a million and one hugs sweetie. Please take care of yourself. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Another good site to visit is the breavement board.
Love ya
Gail
xoxoxoxoxo
I am sorry for your loss. Cancer is a horrible disease. I lost my sister to cancer in 2004. Although I was sad to see her go, I was glad she didn't have to endure anymore pain. Everyone says that time heals all wounds. It does, to some degree. There are many times when I miss my sister dearly. Being one of my sister's caregivers for 13 months while she was undergoing chemo, etc. has changed me forever. I do not value material things and I have become much closer in my relationship with God.
My sister left behind a husband and two sons: 15 and 17. However, leaving behind a son who is only one year old is much tougher. I am sure he is watching over his family from a pain-free place. I am sure your cousin's wife will tell him all the great things about his dad.
Take care...
My 30 year old daughter-in-law passed away July 2nd. from cervical cancer. She fought the cancer for more than 2 1/2 years. Everything that you read tells you "regular pap smears" but she got them like clockwork. Nothing the doctors (including Mayo Clinic) did ....helped. This young woman is the bravest woman I have ever met.
She leaves behind her husband (my son) and an 11 year old daughter. Our hearts are breaking, so I know how you're feeling. I would like to tell you it gets better, but I am not there yet.
My son fell in love with this girl when they were 16 years old. I am not only dealing with the pain of losing this sweet girl, I am watching my son suffer. He was so amazing, he took care of her every need right up until the last week of her life. At that time, both families (15+ people) moved into their home - we did whatever we could to comfort my son, their daugher and each other. We wanted to make her last days as comfortable as we could. We slept in shifts, kept the fire pit going all night for those who couldn't find a bed or a floor to sleep on. She passed away with her husband holding her, her mom, dad and myself cuddled next to her.
I only tell you all this because I want you to know that I so understand how you are feeling. I am so sorry for your loss.
I am very sorry for your loss. But could I let you know that you will see your cousin again in the future. Seems impossible i know, but its what the Bible promises.
(Revelation 20:12-13) And I saw the dead, the great and the small, standing before the throne, and scrolls were opened. But another scroll was opened; it is the scroll of life. And the dead were judged out of those things written in the scrolls according to their deeds. 13 And the sea gave up those dead in it, and death and Ha′des gave up those dead in them, and they were judged individually according to their deeds.
He is not being judged on whatever he did wrong, but on how he reacts to waking up in God's new system, The Kingdom. What we pray for in the lord's prayer. Matthew 6; 9,10
How we know this is stated at ; (Romans 6:23) For the wages sin pays is death, but the gift God gives is everlasting life by Christ Jesus our Lord.
Wages are full payment for something. So our death fully pays for our sins I do not know if you are of any particular faith, but whatever it tells you, we must always go by what the Bible says.
And it offers us hope for the future.
(Psalm 37:11) But the meek ones themselves will possess the earth, And they will indeed find their exquisite delight in the abundance of peace.