A Friend Moving Away

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Registered: 07-11-2007
A Friend Moving Away
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Wed, 07-11-2007 - 8:20pm
I wasn't sure where else to turn and found this board. I hope that this question is OK to ask here. I'm just torn up. An incredibly good friend has stage IV prostate cancer. He and his wife are both very hush hush about what is and isn't happening with him and his cancer. He seems good some days and really bad others. I was recently offered a great job 3 hours away. My husband (who has rheumatoid arthritis and is disabled) and I want to take the job. Its in a great place and a great opportunity. I knew that they would be upset with us and want us to stay. They of course have other friends, but we do have them over for dinner a couple of nights a week and do a lot to support them. Will they forgive me ever if we move? Any help would be appreciated.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 07-11-2007 - 8:33pm

I am sure it will be difficult for both of you.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Registered: 07-11-2007
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 4:43pm

Thanks for your words. I told them last week that we would be moving and it was very difficult for us all.

We just found out today that his cancer has spread. We heard from another friend and tried to call over there. I think that they are currently absorbing it all and don't really want to talk with anyone. Any suggestions on what we should or could do to help?

Is there a better board for friends who are kind of caregivers? Do we let them take the lead? I guess its just really tough and we want to do the right thing. We're their for them, but I don't know what that means with us leaving.

Any help or advice would be most welcomed.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 3:04am

Hi


I am so sorry they have received such news.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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