my daughter's brain cancer

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Registered: 07-30-2007
my daughter's brain cancer
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Mon, 07-30-2007 - 11:04am

Hi everyone

I need an outlet for my anxiety over my daughter's brain cancer.
She has a glioma tumour with malignant cells.

We found out on Jan 30th 2004. (It was on my son's birthday.)

I went into a fugue-type state and have very little memory the first 2 weeks after we found out.
It took me 2 weeks to cry because I was not accepting the diagnosis.

I have since divorced (didn't want that either) and I have lost most of my/our friends in this mess.

I am 50 years old and most do not know how to handle me, what to say, so they stay away.
I stay away from them too. I feel more irritated after being with them.

I have had psychiatric help for all the grieving - loss of marriage, friendships, and terminal illness.

People tell me that I have to "start a new life".
This only makes me more anxious/sad/confused...)

I should say that my daughter is/seems healthy right now.
She has had surgery and chemo.

I would like to hear back from anyone who might care.

Sue

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 08-03-2007 - 8:13pm
(((Sue))) I don't get over to this board very often, but your cry for help touched my heart. I am sorry for your situation. It must be so difficult to deal with all the changes in your life. It is good that you have gotten some professional help in dealing with your losses. I can't imagine the stress and heartache you must have gone through and probably still experience. I know there is a bereavement board here at iViilage. You might want to check there for additional support. I have found my internet connections have been so valuable in dealing with stress and difficulties. Know that there are many listening ears, shoulders to cry on and hearts that care about you even if they have not met you in person. If you have a church affiliation, you might try a religious leader for counseling and compassion. I know starting over sounds like a monumental task. My advice is to take it one step at a time, one day at a time. Make small changes and make adjustments as you go. Hang in there and look for rainbows. The promise of better days is there for you. Hugs, Lauri

 

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Registered: 09-26-2007
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 10:54pm

Oh my gosh; my daughter has brain cancer too.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 11:58pm

Hi Sharon


I don't know if you read it or not, but my Mom had a tumor on the brain stem.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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