Am I being Selfish?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-24-2007
Am I being Selfish?
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Thu, 09-06-2007 - 6:29pm

my boyfriend of 6 mths has lung cancer in both lungs and he's undergoing chemo.

the other day i told him that i was not feeling too well-just that i had bad hay fever which tired me out and gave me headaches & he asked me not to visit him 'if i have slightest thing'...was a bit upset cause it was as if he was giving out to me

i know that when under chemo your immune system goes down the drain but would it be so bad that just a sneeze from hay fever could transmit germs?

i am trying to be very supportive during such difficult times but sometimes i get angry and hurt with certain things he says - i obviously don't say this to him given his condition. am i being selfish?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 09-07-2007 - 12:41am

Hello and welcome to the board.


Well I would think there would be some way around it.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Registered: 08-24-2007
Fri, 09-07-2007 - 11:04pm

yeah docs warned him to make sure nobody who's sick comes near him cause immune system very weak and he cannot afford to get sick with chemo coming up next week.

much better now (thanks to garlic supplements-you should try them philly if you have hay fever too!)and he said that if i just have the occasional sneeze i won't kill him...

in about 3 weeks time docs will tell us whether chemo is actually working or not given that they don't know exact type of cancer - hopefully it is as that's his only way of getting through all this.

thanks for your support!