Where is the mercy?

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Where is the mercy?
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Sun, 09-09-2007 - 8:40am

My sister, the Hospice nurse and I finally convinced my mother to go to the Hospice facility when she could no longer get out of bed (my mom has stage IV esophageal cancer that has spread everywhere you can image).

Each day, she's getting worse. She weighs about 85 lbs now (she's 5'9"), struggles to draw breath all day long, has not eaten solid food in over a month (I kid you not, it's been 39 days). It's horrible to witness. If it's that bad to watch, how hard must it be to live like that? Hospice is doing everything they possibly can to help her and keep her comfortable, but unfortunately, because of her awful breathing issues, it's very hard to manage her symptoms.

Now, I'm not a religious person, but I finally broke down the other day and prayed. Actually, I asked God a question. "God, where is your mercy?" When I realized I wasn't about to get an answer right then, I just flat out asked for mercy for my mom!

It is so hard to watch this level of suffering.

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Registered: 09-26-2007
Thu, 09-27-2007 - 11:38pm
You know, as I got more familiar tonight with the site, I saw how supportive you were, out there and involved.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 12:07am

Hello Sharon


I am the community leader for the board.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Registered: 09-26-2007
Fri, 09-28-2007 - 10:25pm
Hi again.
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Registered: 07-08-2004
Sat, 09-29-2007 - 3:17pm

Jo, I'm so sorry. My mom died on September 16th, so we lost our mothers right around the same time.


As a mother, I can honestly say I would MUCH rather have my son enjoying himself and not present for my death. The last 24 hours with my mother was frightening and beyond upsetting. It is something I will never forget. However, during the last couple of days, I started to look at some old photos of her and remember her how she was most of her life, not just at the very end.


Hugs to you. I understand what you're going through. And don't worry. Your mom knows you love her.

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Sat, 09-29-2007 - 3:20pm

Thank you for the positive energy. I am sending some right back to you!


You must have amazing strength to be dealing with your child's illness so well. It's hard losing a parent, but unimagineable thinking about losing a child.


Please give your daughter my best, and tell her there are people out there thinking about her.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 09-29-2007 - 11:20pm

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Registered: 09-26-2007
Sun, 09-30-2007 - 9:01am

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Registered: 09-26-2007
Sun, 09-30-2007 - 9:39pm
Thank you so much.

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