mom diagnosed terminal

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Registered: 10-18-2007
mom diagnosed terminal
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Thu, 10-18-2007 - 10:01pm

Hi, I'm new here.  Looking for advice and support from others who have gone through the same nightmare.


My mom was diagnosed with mesothelioma 1 month ago, the doctors give her about 9 monthes to live .  She is not a candidate for treatment because her breathing is already compromised from emphysema.  She seems to hae taken it pretty well at the beginning(she is 71yo) but I think is in a little denial right now.  I'm having such a hard time with this some days because I feel so helpless.  I have always been the child who was there for her and always helped her with anything she needed and now I feel so helpless.  I know that I'm probably doing as much as I can, but this FEELING OF HELPLESSNESS and sadness gets so overwelming some days.  I have always been a positive person, but I also have always had anxiety problems and this is really increasing my anxiety so much.  There are days that I feel strong, but others I feel like I'm going to loose my mind just thinking of her constantly in the pain she is in.   She has a pain patch and is on Lortabs but she still has bad days of course.  I try to be strong around her,but it's breaking my heart.  Any advice on how to cope better????


Thanks and prayers to all of you!!

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Thu, 10-18-2007 - 10:47pm

I am so sorry about your situation.

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Fri, 10-19-2007 - 4:14pm

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I am so very sorry your Mom is going through so much.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Registered: 10-18-2007
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 7:37pm

Thanks so much for your thoughts!


First I want to say how happy I am for you and your family, that you are a survivor!!!!!

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Registered: 10-18-2007
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 7:45pm

Thanks for responding so soon!!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 10-20-2007 - 3:09am

It has been a few years since I lost my Mom to cancer.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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