what if it isnt malignant?

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Registered: 10-24-2007
what if it isnt malignant?
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Wed, 10-24-2007 - 7:29am
my dear mother in law has just been found to have a lesion on the posterior aspect of her brain. she is very lucky to have a husband and 3 children who all adore , love and respect her . we , as yet , do not know a dfinitive diagnosis or prognosis or have been offered any treatment options. as you can imagine we are all very concerned my question is , as her daughter in law and mother to 3 of her 7 grandchildren how do i handle any part imay be asked to play in the future. i would appreciate any help you could offer. my husband ia a biomedical scientist in the NHS and i am a registered nurse of 27 years experience but with this so close to home my proffesional judgement is a little clouded! look forward to hearing any advice or help you may be able to give xx
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Registered: 09-06-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 11:05pm

Welcome to the board.

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Thu, 10-25-2007 - 10:52am

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Hello


I am so sorry your family is facing cancer.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Fri, 10-26-2007 - 7:04am
thankyou for the wonderful advice i shall certainly try to do the things you suggest thankyou also for your kind thoughts and prayers i will of course keep you posted . much love xx
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Registered: 10-24-2007
Fri, 10-26-2007 - 7:07am

thankyou for your kind thoughts, great advice and the beautiful pictures .it is great for me to feel as mud and not blood !!! that i have a part to play , i will of course keep you updated.


ps im glad i found the site too xx

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Sun, 10-28-2007 - 10:09am

a follow up ! further investigations have revealed that the brain tumour is secondary to lung cancer. MIL is seeming to cope well as is my husband , but to quote his own words " i am a scientist i deal in facts" i fear that that when his emotions do come to the surface it is going to hit him very hard. i don't feel i can pre- empt that i have just told him that i am here for him in any capacity he feels he wants , i didnt feel that i could say anything else. on a purely selfish level i feel totally use less am i supposed to feel this way is there something else i am missing ? could i be doing more !


i am so sorry i havnt asked after you and yours . heres hoping life is ok for you. much love. carole x

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Mon, 10-29-2007 - 11:18pm

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Hi Carole


I am so very sorry.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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