New here and need some p & pt

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Registered: 10-16-2007
New here and need some p & pt
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Sun, 02-10-2008 - 8:26am

My dad just got his PET scan report and we now know that he has lung cancer that has spread to his medeastinum, where it is wrapped around his heart and pulmonary artery. It has spread to his spine, shoulder blades, collar bones, and legs. The tumor around his heart is 6.5cm. In all the reading I've done on the web, I've never read any good news about a tumor this size. The family is crushed. My younger brother is getting married in June, and I will be having the first grand child in September. He hasn't spoken to his pulmonary dr. yet, and hasn't seen an oncologist yet either. He had biopsies taken last week though a broncioscope thingy. We are waiting to hear the results.


I guess I just need some good news, so that I can hold on to some hope, because everything I've read is horrible. I can't imagine being a mom with out my dad around. I'm angry because this isn't fair, this isn't what happens to our family. I'm pregnant and everyone keeps telling me to take it easy because I don't want to stress the baby, but I don't know how to do that when my daddy is so sick. I'm a teacher and can not concentrate at work, I've just been sitting and crying. My husband and I are going to be moving out to live with them soon, so that we can assist in taking care of the farm they live on. I just want to pack up now and go.


I'm sorry for the ramble and I hope I posted this in the right folder.

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Registered: 02-25-2002
Sun, 02-10-2008 - 8:49am
Hi, I am new around here and haven't yet told my reasons for checking out this board at all...want to send you and your family lots of prayers and positive thoughts, for strength to get thru the difficult days ahead. Try to stay in the moment...thinking too far ahead is counter

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 02-10-2008 - 9:54am

I just wanted to wrap my arms around you for a big hug and send you my prayers for your dad, you and your family. Your story touches my heart as my dad got that diagnoses (lung cancer that spread...stage five) and we went through a journey with him that I wish on noone. If you ever want to ask me questions or talk just email me through my profile. I can tell you more about my dads diagnoses and how it went until he passed away if you'd like. But right now I don't think you need that as much as you just need caring and prayers!


Sydney

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 02-10-2008 - 11:56am

Welcome to the board.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Registered: 10-16-2007
Sun, 02-10-2008 - 4:33pm

Thank you. I'm sure that I will be asking questions as the Dr.s present us with more information. We are looking at moving out to be with them in the next month or so. So that we will be close during my pregnancy and

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 02-10-2008 - 11:49pm

Hi Melissa


Oh I see your baby is due in Sept.

Hope everyone has a great Summer!

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Mon, 02-11-2008 - 10:06pm

The funny thing is that when we first found out I said to my DH "I'd live in a tent in the backyard just to be there and be close." Well, after looking into our options the quickest way to get out there would be to live in something temporary...We are going to be living in motor home in the backyard!! I'm totally ok with it (except that I'll miss my sleep number bed, but I'm going to put it in the guest room in my parents house) and it makes me laugh to think about it. It's crazy, but

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Registered: 02-11-2008
Mon, 02-11-2008 - 10:21pm

Thank you so much for replying to my thread...I had to reply to yours as well. To let you know that it's the hardest thing in the world, but every moment you can spend with him will be precious as it always has been. I remember worrying that I wouldn't say all the things I needed to say to him. But truly, there was a moment before my dad passed, when I looked him with every intention of saying a million different things and all that came out was "i'm so glad you are my dad. I love you with all my heart, I always will." And as much as I have rethought that moment and wished I'd said more, it was enough. he knew.


Tell him what you need to tell him, give him your strength, support, and love. I hope to God and will say a prayer for your entire family and for your dad. Keep the faith, keep the love, and keep every single memory close to your heart.


HUGS

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Registered: 02-11-2008
Mon, 02-11-2008 - 10:23pm

One more thing...if you ever need someone to talk to, ask questions of, etc, don't hesitate to contact me:


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Registered: 10-16-2007
Tue, 02-12-2008 - 1:02pm

your post made me teary, because there are so many things I would like to say, but when it comes down to it, the basic fact is that I love him and always will. I guess sometimes those words say it all. I'm glad you got to tell your dad that you love him. thanks for the offer to talk. I'm sure I'll take you up on it as things progress. :) *hugs* to you too!

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Tue, 02-12-2008 - 6:38pm
I found out today
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