Father is sick and mother is in denial

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Father is sick and mother is in denial
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Wed, 03-19-2008 - 10:13pm
My father has been diagnosed with prostate cancer in 1995. It has recently returned along with bladder cancer. We just found out two days ago that he also has cancer in his intestine. My mother and father have been inseparable since the day they met (over thirty years ago-anniversary coming up on 21st)and my mother does not want to believe what is happening. She can tell family members what is going on with dad but she just won't let it sink in. How can I help her? I am going through some of the same difficulties, I can type it to you but I can't let myself feel. I am terribly afraid of what will happen to my mother after my father is gone. I have thought about uprooting my children (I have two boys one 10 and one almost a year-the oldest is finally getting A's and B's in school with the help of a tutor)from our small town to live in the big city just to be with her and help with her bills. Social Security will be cut down to a quarter of what she was used to with dad, his ARMY pension won't be enough to support her for very long, and her house isn't worth much now with the housing market the way it is. The main problem with moving is that my mother lives in a bad neighborhood(my brother and I have trying to move her and dad out for years but they refuse to go-and I don't want my boys going to the schools in that town.) My mother won't move. What should I do?
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Wed, 03-19-2008 - 10:29pm
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