Boyfriend has Given Up

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Boyfriend has Given Up
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Tue, 05-06-2008 - 12:44am

My live in boyfriend just found out that he has two spots on his left lung.  These spots, which are the size of a dime have not been confirmed as anything yet but he is very convinced that he is dying.  He has some other alarming symptoms like weight loss, loss of appetite (I believe this one is stress), anxiety and a cough that won't go away.  I know these symptoms point towards lung cancer but I also know that it could be other things too. 


The problem is that he has completely given up before he has even been diagnosed.  He is shutting everyone in his life that cares about him out including me. He has just packed up his stuff and is moving to a room in the middle of nowhere so that he can spare me from watching him die.  I think this is extremely unfair to both of us.  I don't understand why he is dealing with this issue this way.  He hasn't even been diagnosed yet but he has given up on any chance to beat this, and he has given up on our relationship, which has been a really good relationship up until this point. 


I don't know how I am supposed to react to this.  He is the love of my life and I want nothing more then to be here for him at this hard time but I don't want to push to hard.  I don't know whether I am supposed to try and convince him to remain positive or let him be and wait for him to come around.


Please, I could use any advice.


God Bless all,


Crystal

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Tue, 05-06-2008 - 11:29pm

Welcome to the board, Crystal.

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Wed, 05-07-2008 - 7:34pm
thank you for the reply.
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Registered: 09-06-2007
Thu, 05-08-2008 - 6:55pm
I am so sorry.

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Registered: 05-12-2008
Mon, 05-12-2008 - 5:11pm
I'm using Vitamin C and Baking soda to cure my cancer (intravenously). Before you laugh, research it. I'm getting healed from my breast cancer. I learned about it at New Hope Medical center. Dr. Fredda Branyon is amazing!!!!

Your boyfriend is not alone in this. He can beat this whether it's cancer or not. He can take charge of his health care (no different than when we get in our car and drive safe) Life has it's bumps, but cancer does not have to be a killer, more and more people are becoming aware of that thank God.

Here's my link for you to visit for support, don't give up on him (I know you won't :-]
I went through his stage of isolation, it's normal...

http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=12791645

Sincerely
~Shannon Knight