I'm terrified I'm going to loose my mom

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Registered: 05-15-2008
I'm terrified I'm going to loose my mom
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Thu, 06-05-2008 - 12:04pm
Hello all. I  am hoping someone here can help me. I am terrified that I am about to loose my mom.

I am 22, I have a 12 year old brother, and my mom just turned 50. My mom has been having some chest pains resembling a heart attack off and on for the past 1.5 yrs. It was during on of the recents bouts of this that she went into the ER to get it checked out. She wanted to make sure that everything was ok, because in addtion to the heart problems she also has diabeties which puts her at an even higher heart risk.

They did a CT scan, and while doing so the tech accidently caught a glimpse of her liver. Shortly after the dr gave us the news we had never expected to hear. " I think you have cancer." They didn't see anything with her heart, but they had seen several lesions in her liver.

She was addmitted last night and they did another ct scan and blood work. The blood work came back indicitive of cancer, and the ct scan also showed a thinkening in her colon. The internal medicine dr spoke with us and said "I din't want to beat around the bush. It looks like you have colon cancer and metastatic(sp) liver cancer." She will get the biopsy today and speak with an oncologist.

I looked online and they say that the survival rate for that form of liver cancer is 0%. I'm terrified I'm going to loose my mom, and that she will never get to see my little brother grow up to be a man. I have all these thoughts running through my head.....how am I going to work and take care of her, what if she only has a few months, how am I going to raise my brother, she's never going to see my or my brothers wedding, or our children....

I am just so overwhelmed and I am trying so hard to hold it together and just take this one step at a time. Just wait until they do the biopsy, is what I keep saying. Then I feel selfish for worying about some of the things I listed because her my mom is about to face a long horrible fight.

Can anyone give me some advice? Does anyone here know someone who has beaten this type of cancer before, or should I instead focus my energy on making whatever time we have left with her count? How do I support her through this? I just never thought my brother and I would have to let her go so soon......
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Registered: 09-06-2007
Thu, 06-05-2008 - 12:16pm

Welcome to the board.

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Registered: 05-08-2003

My mother was diagnosed with colon cancer and mets to the liver/lungs in Aug. 2006.

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Registered: 08-01-2003

I am soo sorry to hear you are going through this. I am also 22 and my mother in law was diagnosed with colon cancer and it was also in her ovaries really bad. She went through chemo and came out fine but now a couple months after chemo was over, she might be facing it again. She goes to see a urologist tomorrow to take care of surgery. I am the one who has taken her to allll her appointments. Not her kids or her husband but me. She means the world to me. She is just like my mother. I am going through the same thing you are. I just wanted to tell you to be there for her through the whole thing. You will appreciate all that