Grandfather

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Grandfather
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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 6:02pm

Hi. I am new to this board. Over the last few weeks my family has been through a whirlwind. My grandfather, Gray, was diagnosed with colon cancer that we thought only matasizied to his liver. We now know it is in his lymph nodes. He is meeting with an oncologist next week. We should know what his prognosis is then. We are pretty sure he won't do chemo or anything.


I am having a hard time with this because I am very close to him. From the birth to the age of 4, my mom, sister, and I lived with my grandparents every 6 months  because of my dad being in the Navy and out to sea a lot.  (I am 26.) I am the oldest grandchild and we have this connection. Everyone says it. What I am sad about is that I do not have kids (I am the only one who could right now.) My husband is sad for this too. I am starting grad school in January, which Gray is very excited about. (His grandparent name is Gray. I gave him that because I wanted to say grandfather, which sounded like grayfair because his name is Raymond.) I am just having a hard time. I don't want to lose him. He is only 70. I always thought of having my kids hear him tell the same corny jokes he told me and sing the same silly and beautiful songs he taught me to sing. I hoped that he would teach one of them how to make a speech and how to read and recite poetry like he taught me. I hoped to have him argue with my 6 year old about politics like I did at 6. (I was weird.) My parents are around, thankfully. Gray is just so... Gray. There is no way to explain it.


It is very hard.

Sarah- High School teacher by day, writer by night
Sarah- High School teacher by day, writer by night
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In reply to: teacher_sarah
Fri, 10-03-2008 - 10:11am

Hi Sarah!

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