Feeling sad and a bit helpless

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Registered: 11-30-2008
Feeling sad and a bit helpless
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Sun, 11-30-2008 - 5:17pm

My mom (who just turned 68) was diagnosed with colon cancer 2 years ago.  By the time she was diagnosed, she was already Stage 3 d.  The cancer had already spread to her liver and possibly her lung.  She started chemo but the first mix of drugs made her very ill so she was switched to a low dose of another drug.  She had been doing relatively well (or so I thought).  Today she told me she had a CT scan recently and the results were "not good".  She has multiple tumors on her liver so obviously the low dosage was not working.  She is starting a new kind of chemo this week.  She has been given 8 months to live and has been told she has already survived longer than most people who have the type of cancer she has.  I live in Florida and my entire family is in PA so the information I get is sometimes missing a lot of details.  Mom didn't want to tell us the most recent news because she didn't want to spoil the holidays.  I have long suspected she was sicker than she told us she was.  My dad also underwent radiation therapy for early stages of prostate cancer within the past year.


I don't really have a question, just needed to vent (in a way).  It's hard to talk about this to friends as they don't seem to understand.  I feel like I am already grieving for both my parents.


 

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Registered: 04-30-2000
Mon, 12-01-2008 - 2:12pm

I am sorry about your parents.

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Registered: 07-29-2007
Mon, 12-01-2008 - 9:28pm
I am sorry abot your Mom.My heart goes out to you.I understand about feeling helpless I do to.

Lori

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Registered: 11-30-2008
Tue, 12-02-2008 - 5:28pm
Thank you for your support, it does help.