Can some please help me

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-15-2003
Can some please help me
1
Sat, 01-10-2009 - 7:39pm

I was here a while ago about my stepdad. The cancer went away but it came back a few months later. He was told by his doctor that he really need to go and get radation. I am sorry if I am missing words but right now I can't even think straight and I have not to talk to so I am here looking for answers and ways to let my stepdad now that he really should go for the radation. He is worried about the 3 to 4 week hos. stay and then he found out to that he will have to stay in the house for a year after he gets home. He will not be allowed go out the garage or mow the yard.


So because he has decide to not go for the radation he is will have to get two more rounds of Chemo and the hope and pray that the cancer does not come back.  The second time he got this it hit him hard and he was really wore out. He had to stay over in hos. for 24 hour chemo. He did this once a month for about six months.


I am really afraid that if he gets this again he will not make it.


Now here is the biggest reason he will not get the radation. He doesn't want to leave his dog for that long of a time. He is worried that she will not get her treats or her car rides all the time. My mom does not like the dog but my oldest son does and he is living with them to help them out.


I know this doesn't make any since but I really am just sitting here trying not to cry and it is not working. I am just really out of idea and way to get him to see that he needs to go and this done.


I was going to write a letter from the dog saying that she would like him to go and get the radation so that he will be well and can spends lots of time with her when he is the house for a year and she will give up her car rides if it means that he will around for alot longer. But I really suck at words not sure just how to go about doing it.


Can someone please help me before I lose my stepdad. I know he and I didn't really get along when I was younger but he is still the person who makes my mother happy and there are some good things about him. But I am also worried about my mom. I know she really needs to talk and him how she feels but she will not do it. She has said that it is his chose and not hers. I think it should be a decide that they make together.


Thanks for letting me talk alittle. I am going for now. I will be back again when things to be to much for me to handle.


 


Thank


Regina

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-04-2005
Tue, 01-13-2009 - 1:13pm
It sounds as if your dad has made his decision and as hard as it is to bear, I think you have to honor it.

Photobucket