Very Upset
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Very Upset
| Thu, 01-22-2009 - 8:20am |
I couldn't sleep early this morning due to tooth pain so I check my emails and I received one from a dear friend who lives in another state. 2 years ago she was diagnosed with breast cancer. She had a radical removal and then extensive chemo. It took almost a year to feel herself again and be cancer free.
She just got her PET/CT scans back and they weren't good at all :( She writes.
I have to make this short, but I wanted you to know that the news was very bad. My cancer is back and it's extensive--all throughout my spine, in my sternum, and in my liver. The prognosis is poor, but as the oncologist says, we haven't started the fight yet. Next week, I'll be getting a new port implanted, and then we'll be starting some REALLY heavy duty chemo. It will be rough, even worse than the last time (I'll be sick, have a lot of bone pain, overwhelming fatigue, hair loss, low blood counts, etc.), so I need lots of prayer.
I am so shocked for her also. Has anyone had experience with this? Is it possible to get through it? She says prognosis is poor, but they haven't started the fight yet. I wonder what that all means. All I know is, I don't want to lose my good friend. I feel like crying buckets. I am very sick about this. This makes all my problems seem so small in comparison.
Debbie
Debbie, Mom to my "only" Stephanie

Hi, Debbie, and welcome. I am so sorry to read of your friend. Allow me to tell you a little of my personal story... While on vacation this past September, we visited with some very close friends of ours who now live in a different state. They both looked and felt good. Two months later, my friend calls and tells me that her husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer. It was a devastating blow! He has had surgery and is recovering at home. (The doctors say they got all of the cancer.) Another friend of mine whom I had known for years and years passed on from ALS - Lou Gehrig's Disease. In my grief, I kept asking what was I ever going to do without her. My friend still stands in the doorway of my heart and though I cannot see her, I CAN see the ever abiding encouragement and love.
Somehow, life goes on. We take the time to grieve (which is very important!) and then we begin the healing process. Grieving is neither gentle nor quiet -
Thank you so much Geri for the warm welcome and support. You never know. My friend went through breast cancer and although tough, made it through. And now this. I wish I could be there with her. She is in another state about 1,000 miles away. I haven't heard from her yet so I don't know. Once I hear more, I will return. Thanks again.
Debbie
You're very welcome!
Is there any way you could join her in the near future? I'm sure it would be a very positive thing for you both. I do realize, though, that with a demanding job or the price of gasoline today, it isn't feasible to do any traveling.
And you're right... You just never know. Your friend may come through this unscathed and ready to take on the world once again. Think positive, my friend.
Please do let us know when you hear something more. I'll be thinking of you! ((((Debbie))))
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