5 weeks & dr. called me "fat"

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Registered: 07-27-2003
5 weeks & dr. called me "fat"
Tue, 07-29-2003 - 4:48pm
This is my first time being pregnant. I am so excited and went to the dr. for confirmation yesterday. He confirmed I was pregnant and proceeded to tell lecture me about my weight. I have been going to this OBGYN for approx. 1 1/2 years. He never took my weight before yesterday or said anything about it. I am 28 years old, 5'2" and 145 lbs. I know I am not thin. Never have been, never will be. I jog 5 times a week and I don't eat meat or fast food. Here is the part that really upset me. He called me "overweight" and as he went on, he straight up called me "fat." He said I should be no more than 115 lbs. (I haven't been that since I was in the 10th grade.) I didn't say anything to him at the time. I was flabbergasted. I am debating on whether or not to change drs. I really don't feel comfortable with this guy anymore. What do you think?


Malia Naomi



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Wed, 07-30-2003 - 6:51am
I am sorry your doctor treated you like that. If you are upset by him either tell him exactly what you wrote in your post, or change doctors. You really shouldn't be upset, especially when you are pregnant!

If every time you see him you will be upset by what he had said to you, I suggest change doctors. It is still early enough that you can find a good doctor before you go to your big appt's and deliver your baby.

It sounds like you are healthy, making sure you exercise and watch what you eat. As long as you don't gain weight too fast there shouldn't be a problem.

Hugs and Good luck!

Keep us posted!

Brandy & Cade

EDD Dec 21 #1

(I changed doctor's at around 9 weeks, and totally love my doctors now!)


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Wed, 07-30-2003 - 9:46am
He sounds like a complete moron to me. It's his type of attitude that quite unnecessarily gives women weight complexes.

In the year 2003, anyone who gives you a flat number for what you should weigh as opposed to a range is grossly misinformed. I am also 5'2" and there's no way that I should weigh 115. I also have not weighed 115 since high school and have no interest in returning to it. And indeed, if you practice healthy lifestyle habits and your health status relfects this, I can't imagine what his hangup(s) could be.

I personally wouldn't feel comfortable being in his "care".

Good luck and congratulations!

Jada EDD 10/02

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Wed, 07-30-2003 - 11:07am
I'd definitely get a new doctor. What a jerk!
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Fri, 08-01-2003 - 4:27pm
I'm so sorry to hear that you had that experience. I've had some bad experiences with doctors (from my therapist to my GP). I have to agree that this is not the time to be with someone that you are not comfortable with, esp. while pregnant.

Tell him off if you want to and then find a new doctor, or just find a new doctor.

I had asked my friend who their OB were and then I interviewed them and pick the one that I liked best. Remember that this person will be caring for you and your unborn child for the next few months - you have to be able to trust them.

(And you are not overweight!)

All the best and ((((HUGS))))



Doris & little Emily
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Registered: 04-27-2003
Fri, 08-01-2003 - 5:25pm

As one of the other ladies said, your doctor is totally out of the loop if he thinks that it's correct to say you should weigh no more than 115 at 5'2''. If your weight was such a concern, then he needed to mention it previously as part of your general check-ups. I guess I would worry about why he didn't feel it was important to mention something this "serious" sooner.

Anyone who lectures a pg woman on her weight is out of their mind. Even if you were 100 pounds over weight, this is NOT the time to start a weight loss plan!

You will be seeing your doctor quite a lot over the next 7+ months. You also need to feel comfortable that your doc has you and your baby's best interest at heart. I've read too many posts from women who are scared or don't want to call their doctor when they have a concern. Find someone you feel comfortable with. You won't regret finding a great doctor, you WILL regret staying with a doctor you don't like.

Good luck and let us know how you're doing!

EDD 9/27 with #1

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 2:33am

This is the beginning of a horrible relationship if you stay with this doc.... Believe me, you wont regret that decision!

Rachael and Tim Jr, born 7/15


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Registered: 08-04-2003
Tue, 08-05-2003 - 7:12pm
My vote: Switch doctors, and don't worry about those silly weight charts. They don't account for bone density, water retention, or muscle mass (or the fact that people come in all sizes and shapes).

I'd also report his poor bedside manner and lack of tact to patient relations (if you go to a clinic that has such a group).

Good luck and enjoy your pregnancy!

-tm #1, boy, Nov. 16

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Wed, 08-06-2003 - 8:00pm
Get out and get out now. You need a doctor to support you with sound medical practice and advice as well as one that is concerned with your overall well-being and emotions. Why would he say that to you now? There is no good answer to that question. I read a book called "hot MAMA" at the book store the other day that you may want to check out. You can find it on amazon.com for around $8.00. It opens, "Having a baby is the perfect excuse to turn over a new leaf and start cherishing your body." So feel beautiful and love yourself!!
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Tue, 08-12-2003 - 10:14pm
I think that if you no longer feel comfortable with your doctor that you should look into changing OB/GYN. I'm not sure how ecstatic I would be to have him deliver my baby with that attitude. When you go into labor you want to feel like your in great hands, and at least are ok with the person there to share such a wonderful experience with you. He sounds very unprofessional. During the course of your pregnancy you'll be spending A LOT of time with your OB/GYN, you should definetly like who is taking care of you.

~Kristina & Ani Rose 3/21/03

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Registered: 07-30-2003
Wed, 08-13-2003 - 4:06pm
Change doctors! Your weight is going to be a topic of discussion at every single appointment from this point on in your pregnancy. If you stay with him, you're going to have this same type of weight discussion over and over again. It will make every single visit to this doctor a depressing experience. Leave now, while you're still in the early stages of your pregnancy, and find someone you like better.