Name argument! (LONG!)
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|Fri, 10-03-2003 - 10:24am|
I've posted about this before, but the situation is just not getting any better. I know it's not that big of a deal, but it keeps coming back. We cannot agree on boy's names. Don't even know if it's a boy or girl yet (yes, we are finding out), that will either solve the situation or make it worse.
He wants to name the boy essentially after himself. His name is Bret Michael, but he goes by Sam. He wants to name the baby Samuel Michael. I don't like the thought of the baby and him using the same name, Sam. I think it will cause too much confusion. I said I wanted to name it Logan Wallace, after my late grandfather. He doesn't like the name Logan, because he knew a kid by that name and it's "ruined" which I completely understand. I can do without Logan, but would still like to honor my g-pa. So...I come up with Samuel Wallace, thinking it's a great compromise! Right? Well, he's so stubborn that he still says he wants Samuel Michael. Doesn't want to compromise! So, we're looking at other names, but he keeps going back to Samuel Michael. I just don't know what to do!
So last night he comes home after work (2 am!) and is talking to me while he's in the bathroom and I'm in bed. He says another name, Cal. I told him that I wasn't too fond of it, and gave him my reasons-too "old" for my taste, and plus, I knew someone with that name with Down's Syndrome. I felt that it's just kind of a bad omen. So then he says something about that was why he didn't like Logan, because the kid he knew had it too. I said, "you never told me that." He says, "well, he actually didn't have it, just looked like it!" I said that was totally different. So, he kind of blows up and says, "Fine! You name the kid! I'm sick of thinking about it!" I'm like, yeah, that's pleasant! So, of course, me being the diplomatic and calm one, said "It's your child too, you'll be part of the naming process." He is just being irrational about it.
Basically, I know he wants me to cave and use Samuel Michael if we have a boy, because he's throwing a fit and thinks he'll get his way. If he continues this, then I guess I will name it Samuel Wallace, using the compromise. Or one of the other names that we had thought "OK" but have reservations about, like using a friend's "chosen" name.
One of my girlfriends suggested that we just cool it with the names right now and let the situation calm down. We should find out in about two weeks what we are having. I have it in the back of my mind that I would like a boy, but am almost wishing that we have a girl, so this situation goes away!
Any advice? If you've stuck with me this far, I really appreciate it!!!