How do first time Dad's handle the news?
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|Mon, 08-09-2004 - 9:48am|
I'm very new, just confirmed my (first) pregnancy with an at home test and I'm in a bit of shock. This wasn't a planned event but I'm crosing my fingers and hoping for a happy, healthy pregnancy.
I need a bit of guidance and since its so early, we haven't told anyone about this pregnancy and probably wont for weeks. So, I'm going to have to depend on the kindness of others here to see my way through this brand new territory! Thanks in advance for any responses.
My question is, what are some of the reactions that any of you have experienced with your husbands upon hearing the news? I think his reaction can be summed up just like mine....total shock. We found out yesterday and he was in a bit of daze the rest of the day. I spent considerable effort asking him questions re: what he was feeling. We discussed what a big life change this will be and he never seemed to verbalize exactly what his concerns/feelings are. But - it definitely wasn't undeniable joy. AND....he's been the one to insist that he does want a child when I was ambivalent about it. Seems wierd that now that its here, I'm getting on board and he seems to be waffling.
I'm finding this reaction unnerving. Am I overreacting? Do first time dads react with shock, or joy, or a combination of this and other emotions??