Do you go to bed with your spouse?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Do you go to bed with your spouse?
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Fri, 08-21-2009 - 12:08pm

And I mean "go to bed" as in normal sleeping! ;o)

Do you and your spouse go to bed at the same time? Always? Almost always? 50/50? Hardly ever?

I am just really curious. DH and I hardly ever go to bed at the same time. He just requires so much less sleep than I do. If I want to go to bed, I go. When he's ready, he goes. This is how it has been for almost 15 years now and we're fine with it, but I do have friends who are *astounded* that we hardly ever go to bed at the same time. So now I'm thinking we're abnormal!

Just a little informal survey. Remember we are talking about going to bed to SLEEP, nothing ummm.... special!

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Registered: 10-23-2002
Fri, 08-21-2009 - 12:23pm
LOL rarely... i require more sleep then dh most nights sometimes when i go to bed he'll come climb in the bed other times he'll finish up work and once in a blue moon he'll go to bed before me




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Fri, 08-21-2009 - 12:24pm

When I was working, I would say that we typically went to bed around the same time. Now, I tenf to go to bed later than DH because I don't have to be up as early and I can take a nap if I want in the afternoon when my kids nap.

I think whatever works for you and your DH is what you should do.

Kris

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Registered: 06-28-2005
Fri, 08-21-2009 - 1:16pm
Most of the time no.
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Registered: 02-18-2003
Fri, 08-21-2009 - 2:29pm

Almost never I get the girls in bed and settled for the night and usually in bed most nights by 10 pm sometimes earlier and dh goes to bed way later since he requires less sleep and is bi polar so I have to get up in the morning to deal with the girls since dh is not a morning type person
So I have learned to do what is best for me since I require a lot of sleep and never get enough
my dh is the worst sleeper so I have learned to adapt to a certain point

Becky

Becky
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Fri, 08-21-2009 - 3:51pm

No. Usually one or the other of us falls asleep on the couch while the other is watching tv. Then usually the one watching tv goes to bed and the one on the couch stays there until about 1 am. Then the one on the couch comes to bed and the one in the bed then is woken up and can't go back to sleep without watching tv and stays on the couch until morning.

It would be easier if dh would let me get a tv for the bedroom. Clearly we BOTH need television to fall asleep, but he just won't admit it. Whatever.

I am always amazed at people who DO go to bed at the same time.



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Registered: 02-07-2009
Fri, 08-21-2009 - 4:14pm

I am a early bird and DH a night hour. We rarely go to bed at the same times.

It has worked for us for over 27 years.

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Fri, 08-21-2009 - 7:46pm
95% of the time, yes.

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Registered: 10-06-2010
Fri, 08-21-2009 - 8:22pm
DH and I rarely go to bed at the same time. I normally go to bed around 10 and he goes to bed around 12-2. He only only go to bed at the same time I do if he has missed a lot of sleep and needs to "catch up". Even when he works at 8am he goes to be at 1 or 2. I need a lot more sleep than he does!
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Fri, 08-21-2009 - 8:25pm
We go to bed at the same time



 

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Fri, 08-21-2009 - 8:28pm

Almost never. When DH was working, of course, he was gone at night, and on the nights he was home he'd typically stay up late reading (late as in 2 or 3 a.m.). Now that he's unemployed, he goes to bed a bit earlier, (12 or 1) but it's usually an hour or more after I've gone to bed. We end up getting the same amount of sleep, though, since I'm up at 6 for work and he sleeps until 7:30 or 8.

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