Spousal support

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Registered: 06-23-2004
Spousal support
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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 3:13pm

My husband has Diabetes. He was diagnosed with Type 1 when he was in his 20’s. He is now in his late 30’s.
I was wondering if any of you know of any “Spousal” support boards/sites that I could go to for help.

He has “episodes” sometimes during the night where his blood sugar is really low….and I have to take care of him. In the morning he sometimes has no recollection of the events from the night before.

Anyone else living with a spouse with Diabetes 1 out there???

Update...I just looked at this board and found the folder a little further down that is for "Spouses"....I will check that out.




Edited 12/7/2004 3:20 pm ET ET by gretagirl0404
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Registered: 05-02-2003
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 1:11am

Hey Greta, welcome!


I'm the same situation as your husband, I was diagnosed a 1 at 27, I turned 30 earlier this year.

Blueliner4
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 1:14am

We do have some spouses of diabetics here and some are type 1s. My husband is a type2 and he would tell that he needs support taking care of me occassionally! Please do check out the folder for spouses and hopefully some of the others will respond to you also.


A gentle welcoming hug,


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Registered: 01-08-2004
Mon, 12-20-2004 - 4:05pm

I'm new to the board, but have been diabetic for 25 yeras. During thtis time, I have been married and divorced, but one thing about my ex was that he supported and encouraged me to stay on track.

I tended to be lazy, and he would push me to test, to exercise, and to remember that it was my life we were talking about, essentially.

When I went on the pump 7 years ago, he came with me to learn how I used it, what I should be doing, if anything, that was different from my other routines, etc. Emotionally.....it was huge. He obviously wasn't all that in other ways, but he was a good guy in that he wanted me to be healthy.

The most important thing is to have a partner--if you tell him that it's okay if he cheats, and fix things for dinner he shouldn't eat, etc....he might go along with it because he wants to, but inside, it's hurtful. I don't get that impression from you, but it's good to remember. You don't have to be the "bad" guy, but you do have to encourage. If done properly, it truly comes across as love, pure and simple. Good Luck.

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 1:44am

My husband, who is a very bright man, just about drove me crazy when he was first diagnosed. Now every man in his family is diabetic and his dad died of the complications of diabetes so this wasn't a diagnosis that was unexpected. He refused to learn what he could eat and said he would just eat whatever I fixed for him! Well I was then diagnosed with a worse case of type 2 diabetes than his and I had to stop being overly concerned about him and save myself. Guess what! He knew what he was supposed to eat and how much etc. He does a great deal of the cooking now a days and he knows how to figure out how much we are supposed to eat. I am still the worse diabetic of the two and he has to help me out periodically now. So both of us help support the other one.


Neither one of us is in denial! But of course neither one of us is perfect either.


Have a great holiday and I hope you will stay around to join our conversation.

Mary Frances


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