Destructive 8 year old
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|Tue, 10-31-2006 - 7:58pm|
I desperately need some advice on dealing with one of our scouts that is quietly destructive. There are some things going on at home so I know that everthing isn't 100% perfect there, but I'm nopt allowing that as an excuse for her behavior in scouts.
In the past, she has broken the troop crayons, wadded up supplies that other children want to use, attempted to steal craft supplies -- and after I reminded her that they needed to be left for future use, I caught her trying to slide them under some papers.
Today, we went to a local museum to work on a badge. While we were there, she sat next to my daughter and held her magic marker to the side so that it got on my dd's new pants. I saw the entire thing this time. When I pulled her to the side, I told her that I saw what happened and it was not ok to mess up someone else's belongings. She said it was an accident, and it told her it was not -- I saw the entire incident. I also said that I was telling her nicely this time, and next time it would not be so nice. In retrospect, I probably should have said that if it ever happened again, she would not be allowed to go on any trips with us in the future. I still may do this at the next meeting.
Have any of you had experience with this type of child? Ours is really disarming because she smiles all the time while she quietly, secretly destroys things. We never really catch her in the act, but have a pretty good idea that it is her based on the things we have caught her doing. When we catch her, she always says it was an accident. Or she'll flat-out lie about it.
My co-leader and I talked about it this afternoon and decided that it probably isn't going to do any good to tell her mother. She seems to hide from reality quite a bit and is overwhelmed with her own life right now. We're thinking about documenting these things as they happen and then meeting with her in the future.
Any suggestions are greatly appreciated!