What to do with Tigers?
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|Tue, 11-03-2009 - 12:30am|
I am leading the Tiger den this year and I am at a loss.
I am not that great with groups of kids in the first place but my oldest has been in scouts for 5 yrs now (about to get his arrow of light) and I felt it was time to step up from committee member to den leader for my incoming Tiger. (I'm going back to committee member next year - den leader is NOT for me).
I have the boys come over after school because most of us parents do not want a night meeting. The boys all play together while we wait for everyone to arrive. We do an opening flag ceremony, and get down to the activity for the meeting. The activity takes approximately 20 minutes, then they have snack while I talk to parents and check off the achievements they have done on my chart. They are usually done and ready to leave in about an hour. My promise to the parents at the beginning of the year was we would be done by 5 so they could get home and make dinner and do homework without running into a late night.
I'm getting the impression I am supposed to be doing more- having them do skits or play games or something. I am getting a den chief because a boy scout in our local troop needs to be a den chief and I was told its a good thing because he can do the games with the kids instead of me (so I guess I was supposed to be having them do various games ??). What games? Red Rover and that kind of stuff? I have the program helps book but am not really using it because some of the extrastuff seems too elaborate for 6 yr olds and their limited fine motor skills and attention-spans, and I have my own plans for getting them to the Tiger badge by the Blue and Gold banquet. So now I am stressing b/c I have to give this den chief things to do.
Did I mention the meetings are in the great room of my house? We were going to move it to the school and have the boys go straight from dismissal to the MPR but now we have a new boy that goes to a different school and his grandparents don't get him from his bus stop til 45 min after the other boys would walk down to the MPR.
Plus, I have my 2 yr old to handle and my 7-yo daughter who is ok except she keeps asking me unrelated things during the meeting even though I have explained to her to wait. My husband is away a lot so moving the meetings to nights would not really help much and we would lose any daylight for the boys to play outside until the meeting starts.
So I guess my question is what am I supposed to be doing with these boys? The 5 den activities and 5 go see its are pretty easy to get done this fall and early winter without a lot of meetings (I have one or two den meetings per month (depending on holidays/school breaks), plus one go-see-it, plus the pack meeting). During our last school break, I held a "come if you want" work-meeting at our regular time for the boys to come work on rockets together if they so desired. Nobody showed.
Each meeting is really stressful for me. I am not enjoying this at all. My son has ADHD and I really need to focus on keeping him on task 100% of the time (he will literally disappear on me) but I have to run the meeting. I have zero training in what I am supposed to do and I am really really lost (I had no idea I would be this lost after having one child in cub scouts for 5 yrs already). I'm forcing myself through this year because I made the commitment but I feel like I am failing the boys somehow even though I am getting them through their achievements.