Carter's Birth Story
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|Sat, 01-05-2008 - 11:25am|
So he's 4 months old next week, I thought I should post his story and save it before I forget all the details!
(This is the long version...if you want to, you can skip down to the *** for the nitty gritty)
If you recall...I decided to opt for a homebirth early in my third trimester after seeing a CNM throughout my whole pregnancy. She supported my decision, and I met with a local LM and proceeded to do my childbirth education with her. We did Hypnobirthing classes as well at the facility she bases her practice out of.
I was due Sept 3 and contracted my whole pregnancy but never dilated. Then comes 38 weeks and no activity. Sept 3 comes and goes...meanwhile my mother, grandmother, brother, sister, her husband, and their 2 children are camped out waiting for me to go into labor. Not quite how I had envisioned, but whatever.
Sept 4 we go out to dinner, my contractions are every 3 minutes for several hours. I go to the bathroom and lose my mucous plus. They fill like very minor cramps, nothing really painful at all. We go home...DH makes a deposit and we go to sleep. I wake up at about 12:45am with an intense pain that made me jump out of bed. The contractions were that intense for the next THREE DAYS. I kid you not, it was crazy!!
So now it is Wednesday morning, DH is still asleep, and I can't stay in bed for these pains. They are coming every 4-6 minutes, and I am SURE this is labor (haha, I was so wrong). I'll remind you that I am a labor nurse, one might think I'd know when the 'real thing' was happening. So I'm moaning through these, bent over at my bed, and I can't believe how intense they are so quickly. Since I just lost my plug a few hours before, I think this must be going fast. At around 3:30 I woke up DH and we walked around the block. I couldn't walk or stand unsupported during the contractions, so we didn't even make it around, and we went home. I called my LM and she told me to keep her posted, call at 6am. My little brain was like, what? This baby is coming! I was on the verge of tears with the contractions, and I have a high pain tolerance!
Much to my dismay the contractions went from every 3 minutes, to every 5-6 minutes, to every 8-10 minutes but 2pm. The LM came over and checked me...I was only 1 cm!!! (Same as my last visit with the CNM - I kept dual care in case I needed to transfer to the hospital)
I was really upset, disappointed, tired. She encouraged me to drink a glass of wine and rest. I sent DH out and slammed down a glass of wine and slept for 4 hours! It was so nice. I woke up later that evening, around 8pm. And did the same thing all over again. The family played Taboo, but I had to get up and walk through contractions, and couldn't talk. Mom was timing them, still every 8-12 minutes. This went on all night, and throughout Thursday. Had another glass of wine Thursday late evening to try and sleep again. It worked for 4 hours again.
Friday morning I had an appt with my CNM. Now we had to discuss induction because it is practice policy to only go 7 days overdue. They 'allowed' me to go 10 days so we didn't schedule the induction just yet. The contractions were still coming, every 5 minutes at times, to every 20 minutes Friday 2pm when I saw my CNM. She checked me, 2cm-90%....whoop-dee-doo! She stripped my membranes and sent me for an ultrasound and fetal monitoring at the office since I was now 4 days overdue. The testing all came back fine (estimated weight 8#3oz), but the contractions started again at 4:30pm when I was leaving the office. She saw how I handled the contraction, with a deep moan, bent over and rocking my hips. She was surprised and said, wow, do you want me to check you again? I snapped, NO - this is how they have been for 3 days!! I'm never having this baby!
Well boy was I wrong, we got in the car and they were right on every 2-3 minutes. The car ride was horrible, I couldn't handle them at all. I was really doubting my ability to have a homebirth. I was questioning everything.
**** Now here's where the REAL birth story begins!! ****
So we get home around 5pm. Joe calls the LM and the doula around 530 or 6 because I can't even come up for air, they are one on top of the other and I am NOT coping well. The hypnobirthing method of breathing was SO not working and I was really disappointed because we'd practiced for so long. DH started filling up the AquaDoula and the midwife was on her way over. I don't know when they got there, but they were trying to calm me down, get me to refocus. I was crying with some of them and I still thought this might not even be the real thing! They kept saying - you need to get in the tub!! But it was still filling. I got my IV antibiotics for GBS, and then got in the tub at 830pm. Ahhhhhhhhh...man, that was heaven. I was a different woman in there!
So I labored in and out of the tub for hours...now I was trying to focus but the nurse in me was being very negative - no bloody show, no rectal pressure...this baby is never coming! So I finally get my first exam in labor at 2 am. So this is NINE HOURS OF ACTIVE LABOR and I am....drum roll, please.... 4 cm!! I was gonna cry. There was no way I can keep this up. Something is wrong. Baby too big (my tummy was HUGE), something. Then, as she's checking me and saying you bag is really bulging, POP! It broke. Clear fluid, thank God.
Then the real fun began. The rest of my labor was a blur of me fighting the negative thoughts in my head that were literally calculating how long it would take me to get to the hospital and have my epidural in place. The water and DH pushing as hard as he could on my sacrum were the closest I would get to pain medicine though, LOL!
So after about an hour or so I feel the urge to push. I do a quick exam on myself in the shower, and I feel a lot of cervix. Crap, this sucks. I waddle to the tub because I'm starting to get out of control again. The tub always brought me back to focus. After another 20-30 minutes of me trying to handle the mack truck of energy that was passing through my body from my head out my BUTT...I start to bear down again. The midwife checks me and says there is still a little cervix left so try not to push. I said ok but 2 contractions later, it was happening all on its own. I started pushing at 420am and soon the baby was crowning. I didn't realize how fast the delivery happened and all of a sudden this beautiful little body came up to my arms at 457 on SATURDAY MORNING 09/08/07. I thought I was just pushing out the head and there it was!! A couple minutes later we opened the legs...IT'S A BOY! YAY! I was so overwhelmed with emotion. What a ride. SO MUCH HARDER than I thought it would be. Which makes me so much more proud that it happened the way I wanted. Although I had painful contractions forever, it was really only 12 hours of active labor, so I can't complain!
He was 9lbs even and 21 inches with his hand covering his head. The midwives said that is why I had such prodromal labor and a tough start. That compound presentation would likely have resulted in a C/S if I had been in the hospital with an epidural! No way could I have pushed that out, half numb, lying on my back!
I wish I could share the video with you. Although I remember it being so intense, the video is so peaceful and I look in control, much to my surprise. Being a labor nurse gave me the confidence to have a home birth, but it ended up really hindering the experience by thinking too much. I couldn't just surrender to the experience like I wanted. Sometimes knowing less is better!
I'd love to share my birth pictures with you.
and see how he's grown since he was born!
For those who want to see the ALL of the (uncensored) birth pics...
Edited 1/5/2008 11:35 am ET by cam_in_boca