My friend has an oops pregnancy, I'm ttc
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| Mon, 09-10-2007 - 2:53pm |
I'm new here, not a very good writer but I need to vent to others who may understand.
My closest friend is pregnant, didn't use back up with antibiotics. She and her bf have been together for about two months, and she's had doubts about his honesty.
I had just come home from an appointment with the reproductive endocrinologist and was pretty happy when I was told that I would be eligible for laparoscopic surgery to treat possible endometriosis and adhesions. YAY!! After two years of ttc on our own, then a year of dealing with the hubby's doc, we were finally on track to make something happen. An hour and a half later "Katie" comes over to tell me she thinks she's pregnant. Grr... So I tell her to take a test (of course I have them stock piled). Then the first one is positive... and hour later the second one is too.
Katie has always had religious beliefs against abortion and has said in the past she would never do it. Now "Mike" has told her it would ruin his life and he doesn't want a baby around and she should end the pregnancy... I don't think he's treating her well and am afraid that she'll be pushed into something solely for his convenience. Needless to say this has been all consuming. Katie's family is from out of town and I'm the only one besides Mike that she has been talking to.
How do I cope? How do I continue to be a good friend? What do I do? Have you been there?

I have not had that happen to me, but I can imagine how awful it must be to have to deal with her stuff and your stuff at the same time.
On how to be a good friend, I think what you have to do is really compartmentalize.