Getting tired of expectations
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| Fri, 09-21-2007 - 11:30pm |
A neighbor of ours asks us for a donation to her favorite charity every year. She sends the request to everyone in the mail. We donated last year, quite generously. She sent us another request in the mail this year. Well, we just spent $22K on an IVF cycle that didn't work, and maybe spending tons more in the future, for more IVF attempts or foreign adoption. Additionally, I made a $50 donation to a charity just last week (death of someone, I made out a check to a charity in their name). So when I saw my neighbor's request in the mail, I threw it in the trash. We just can't afford to give everyone money who is asking for it. But I feel as though everyone has outstretched hands, wanting money from us all the time. No one knows about our IVF procedures, because we are keeping that a secret. I'm wondering if we should just come out and tell everyone. I'm also worried this neighbor will be peeved at us for not donating the money for her charity. As if we are hard-hearted mean people for not donating. This kind of pressure is annoying.

Well I am sorry to hear about the IVF treatments. Honestly I would just tell them (if you aren't ready to tell them about the treatments) that you just can't do it this year. It is just not possible this year. I don't really think it is anyones business if you don't want it to be. Sorry you have to worry about this on top of everything else. Good luck.
Janis
Loving wife since March 26, 2005!