frustrated

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Registered: 12-11-2007
frustrated
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Sun, 01-27-2008 - 8:38pm
Hello everyone, I am new here. I'm not even sure if I should be posting here because I am not even sure if I am IF or not. I am 23, been married for 3 wonderful years, and for the last two and a half I have been ttc with no luck. I'm not sure why, but I BADLY want to be prego. I just feel like its time for me, and that there is just something in me that really wants this now. I was surfing the net the other night and ran across something that said that you were considered IF if you've been trying to conceive for more than 12mths, and I cried for 2 days. I have always dreamed of a family and a family life, and all of my friends but 1 have started theirs, and the one that hasn't is single and still doing the "dating" thing. I get upset all the time and I cry a lot, and everytime after me and my dh do the bd(as you call it) I pray that this will be the time. Everytime that I tell my dh that i am not feeling good or if its getting close to that time, that my breasts hurt he gets all excited and says well maybe you're pregnant, but of course i never am. He worries about me a lot because I get so worked up about it but I know he is lost. He tries to make the situation lighter but I just don't think he can. My mom says I need to just stop thinking about it and if its ment to be it will happen. She says I'm too young to worry about it. I don't feel like I am tho. I like planned this all out when i was in 6th grade!!!! I was supose to have my first when I was 23 and my second when I was 26. I want one boy and one girl (doesn't everyone?) but I don't really care if i don't it, I would be happy with ANY kid at this point. I have had cryo-surgery( not sure if thats the right sp) b/c I had "growths" on my uterus, but the doc said that it shouldn't affect anything. Gosh I don't know I'm so frustrated with my body right now and I don't know what to do. I'm tired of crying about it and hearing that I'm too young to worry. Because I don't think I am..... am I? Sorry guys I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.
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Registered: 01-12-2008
In reply to: jennabear16
Mon, 01-28-2008 - 12:12am

Hi, Jennabear!

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Registered: 01-23-2008
In reply to: jennabear16
Wed, 01-30-2008 - 12:59pm

I completely agree with the second poster. Don't let that information scare you. It's like she said you may just need a little help. I'm 29 as well & have seen doctors (RE's reproductive Endocronologist aka fertility specialist) & though my issue is a bit more severe sometimes all it takes is taking clomid for someone to get pregnant. I would definitely make a dr's appointment if you haven't already. Your DH will probably asked to give a sperm analysis first before you are checked out since it's less invasive for him.


There is NOTHING WRONG w/getting assistance in trying to expand your family. Admittedly it is a frustrating,isolating time when you are TTC w/no results & everyone around you is pregnant & you know in your heart that you know you are ready to be a mother & it's not happening. Just have faith that it will happen. Please keep everyone updated & hopefully if you have any issues that they are small ones that are easily corrected!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!!!

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Registered: 01-21-2008
In reply to: jennabear16
Wed, 01-30-2008 - 9:05pm

Hi jennabear, I just started posting to this board and I couldn't believe I was a fit for an IF board.

 

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Registered: 09-11-2006
In reply to: jennabear16
Thu, 01-31-2008 - 12:24am

Hello Jennabear!


Welcome to the board.