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| Fri, 02-01-2008 - 2:19pm |
We are trying for the last chance at IUI. My insemination was today. We only had two follicles and my husband count was not very good. We have another one tomorrow and then we wait. We were lucky in the past and got pregnant first try with IUI, not so lucky this time. This is our 6th attempt. They told us today that if this does not work we will have to go to IVF or IVM. We just don't have that kind of money. I am so discouraged. I cried the whole way home. They tell me not to get discourage but how can I not. Nobody around us know that we are going through this so I get to keep it all to myself.
I love my husband and I know it is not his fault, but our infertility problem is with him. I have no issue. I hate feeling like it is his fault, because I know it is not his fault. I just want to be pregnant. I have not even looked into IVF or IVM and have no idea what is involved.
I am willing to take all the advice you guys have.
HELP!!!!!

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(((HUG)))
Well we all know what you are going through at some level. And it's okay to feel the way you do, we all feel that way sometimes.
You might be surprised that people you know are going thorugh the same things, but that requires risk in telling people. I was very muddled about telling anyone, but when I did I found a group of women who had similar issues-some whave had children, some not, some have adopted and some have just moved on and accepted a life spoiling other peoples children. But they are a great support group - and you have us!!
Hi! I completely understand where you are coming from. My DH also has a low sperm count, I seem to be fine besides having a low thyroid. We completed our 5th round of IUI in November with no success, we decided that would be our last try. I spoke to our doctor before our last try at IUI and he said if it didn't work we should do IVF. I asked him if there was a reason why IUI wasn't working and he said he didn't know. I also asked him if there were more tests we could do and he said no. So frustrating!
Before jumping into IVF, we decided to try acupuncture and chiropractic to see if it will help. I hesitate to do IVF because of the expense and what you have to put your body through. But, if acupuncture and chiropractic don't work in the next three or four months, that's what we are going to have to do.
I understand how you can feel frustrated with your husband. We found out he also has a low thyroid. They said that could have something to do with his low sperm count. But getting him to take his thyroid medicine is like pulling teeth! I also ordered him some Fertility Blend vitamins, I have to physically bring it to him for him to take it. I don't blame him for having a low sperm count, but he cold be a little more cooperative to help improve it.
So you get inseminated twice? Our clinic only does it once. I think if we have to do IVF we are going to go to a clinic some of our friends have gone to. It just doesn't seem like this clinic is doing all that they should and they don't always seem very compassionate. I don't really have any advice for you, I just wanted to let you know that I understand what you are going through.
Let me know if this last round of IUI works for you. I'll be crossing my fingers!
I will find out officially on the 15th if it worked or not. I have just about convinced myself that it did not work so that I don't get too disappointed when and if I get my period. My husband is also suppose to take vitamins and he is not great at tacking them. He also takes serophen (I am not sure if that is how you spell it) that helps with his count.
At our clinic we have the choice of doing one or two inseminations. They say that the results are just as good with one as with two if it is well timed. We just wanted to put everything on our side. His count was really bad so we opted for two. We were so lucky in 2005 as we got pregnant the first time with a bad count and everything. We are just not as lucky this time. We are lucky with one thing, the clinic that we go to is great. the staff is really nice. They keep telling me that we should not give up, even if we have to go to IVF or IVM. Apparently hear they can sometimes help with the drugs ( we might only have to pay half the drugs ) and then we would have to pay for the procedure. If we go IVF that would be 4500$ and IVF would be 3800$ The only thing is that money is tight and we don't have that kinds of money right now. I don't even want to think about it.
I know I am being greedy, but I really want our daughter to have a sibling. People who have never been through this just keep telling me that there are lots of single kids out there and they are turning out great. I agree, but for me it is important to have a second child. I always wanted three kids, if and when this works for me again I will be content with two. I don't think I could put myself through this again. I just hope that this will work.
Let me know if the acupuncture and chiropractic works, I might add it to our regiment. I will keep my fingers and toes crossed for all of us that we might all be able to get pregnant.
Thanks for taking the time to make me feel better.
Dear Harmadoune:
Keep your chin up.
I am 36 and he is 40. I know that it is not his fault, but that does not help every time it does not work. I don't blame him, but I am still disappointed. I loved being pregnant with our daughter, and it came so easy the first time. We just expected that it would be that easy again. Even though I was sick for 9 months I loved every minute of it and wanted and still want to do it again.
I will know on the 15th if it worked or not. As I said I am not getting my hopes up. I have cried so much in the last few months that I feel like I am cried out. Having you guys really does help. It reminds me that I am not alone even though it feels like I am.
Five friends and I were all pregnant at the same time the last time. Now I am the only one that is not pregnant. They all got pregnant the good old fashion way on there first tries. I am happy for them and sad for me every time I see there growing belies.
I will keep my finger and toes crossed for you and pray that this time it worked for you and for me and for everybody else out there that is trying.
Thanks for being there.
H.
Harmadoune:
Heres to postive thoughts
lets hope that we can both celebrate together
baby dust, hugs and happiness are wished for you and DH always
T
((((harmadoune))))
Hugs to you.
Well it is official, I got my period this morning. It did not work again. I will call my Dr. office today to make an app. to meet him. The bad news is that we now have to switch to IVF or IVM and our insurance does not cover any of it. I don't know what we are going to do, this sucks. I have not stopped crying all morning.
One of my friends asked if I could watch her son for her next Wednesday as she is being induced (having a girl), another friend is also having a girl in May and another friend is also having a girl in June. The last time around we were all pregnant at the same time, go figure. So all in all I am having a bad day.
Sorry to dump on you guys.
H.
Wow, do I connect with you on a lot of things. My husband and I feel a lot of the infertility is probably on his part (I do have some things going on, too, but respond well to treatment; but during our last IVF only ONE egg fertilized without the aid if ICSI). We're still trying to do this, and we both know that if we want to have a baby with both of our genetic material IVF is our only shot.
We have talked, however, about the possibility of using a sperm donor. It's been a long, hard, road, though. It has taken a lot of discussion. (We've been TTC 3+ years.) We both think, though, that if I am able to get pregnant with that (if nothing else works, of course), that would be preferable for a number of reasons. It would have my genetic information, I would control the prenatal environment, I know I would take the vitamins, etc. etc. etc. And we hope if we get there that we can use the sperm of someone we know, so it won't be a random stranger.
I don't know how the two of you even begin to feel about this option, but it is an option. It is much less expensive than IVF or IVM. It's even less expensive than adoption, unless you do a fost/adopt.
I am sorry that you are going through all of this. It sucks, it sucks, it sucks so bad, I know. I'm wishing you all the best this cycle, and I really hope that it works out. You know we're all here if you ever want to get it out.
k
I am so so sorry you are having to go through this. IF is so stressful and it can sometimes bring out the worst in us-jealously, anger, even hatred (at least for me-I’ve never felt like I was a hateful person until I couldn’t get pregnant and started hating every pregnant woman I saw). I am so sorry your IUI didn’t work. I think that when medicated cycles fail it hurt so much worse than when natural cycles fail, because the hope is so much higher.
There is still hope though. For many, many women IVF is a miracle. I hope that it works for you.
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