Newbie - Need emotional support!

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Registered: 05-24-2007
Newbie - Need emotional support!
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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 1:40pm

Hello everyone! I am new here and am looking for anyone for support.


It is truly so hard to be "infertile" around others who are not dealing with this issue. I have no one around me that is going through this so all I hear is "Don't rush", "You will get pregnant", "You're young", Don't stress"!


My DH and I have 1 daughter who is 22 months who was conceived naturally. I stopped birth control in May of 2005 and got pregnant in July. We also have my 10 year old brother whom my husband and I are legal guardians of - he has been with us 3 yrs so he is more like a son.


We have been ttc for #2 since December 2006. I was on 5 rounds of clomid 100mg with my OB/GYN with no success so was sent to a fertility specialist. I met him in the end of January and am starting my 1st round of clomid and gonal f injections today! I am a bit nervous, excited, scared!


Any advice, comments, etc... would be greatly appreciated. Like I said, you truly do not know what someone with infertility is going through unless you go through it as well. I would love to hear your stories!

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Registered: 01-23-2008
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 2:41pm

Welcome!! Good luck w/Clomid & injections. Hopefully this will be what you need!!!


I'm past ttc now but in 2005 my DH & I decided to start TTC. Of course like everyone else we heard ALL the cliched advice "Don't try too hard", "Just relax" "If you stop trying that's when you'll get pregnant". NONE of that was helpful when month after month AF showed up. July 2006 we sat down w/my OB/GYN who ordered an S/A for DH. Those results weren't stellar but they weren't hopeless either.


5 months later I decided to see my ob/gyn again to talk to him about me. He started me on Clomid that I started in December 2006. I was O'ing like I was supposed to & after 3 frustrating cycles of Clomid I wanted to get more tests done but my ob/gyn wasn't very supportive so I moved on to an RE.


March 2007 I had my initial consultation w/an RE my best friend saw because she & her husband had IF issues. 2 days after meeting my RE (who was amazing) I had an HSG. That was extremely uncomfortable but I lived lol. My left tube was blocked. I opted for surgery since I knew from other peoples experiences that sometimes all that is needed is outpatient surgery to open/clear the tube & then they may be able to get pregnant shortly after.


A month later I had my surgery & found out that my left tube could not be cleared it was blocked beyond repair so it was removed. I also found out that my right tube never fully developed. It was just a nub (for lack of a better term). Shortly after DH & I decided to pursue IVF since that was our only option of becoming pregnant. Plans for that fell through & right now we are in the very early stages of adoption.


So that's my story & how I got here. It's nice to have people to talk to who truly do understand & won't tell you (and this has been said to me now that I'm adopting) "Now that you're adopting I bet you'll get pregnant". I guess when I've told people my sotry & how I have no fallopian tubes the part about no tubes escapes them. Haha.


Good luck w/everything & I hope that you will be pg soon w/#2!!!! :::hugs::::

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Registered: 05-24-2007
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 9:05pm

Wow! Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am hoping this is it and the medicine works. Like I said, they told me I have follicles and everything looks great, that my body just needs a little boost in order to ovulate.


I am so sorry for the journey you had to go through! I know how difficult and heart wrenching it can be! Just think though, all the heartache and tear you had while TTC will all disappear when you adopt your new little one. Children bring such joy and I am thrilled that you will be able to experience it.


I will let you know how my cycle goes....


Take care,

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Registered: 01-12-2008
Fri, 02-15-2008 - 12:19am

Hello and welcome!

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Sun, 02-17-2008 - 6:14pm

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Hi and welcome. I have not been on the board in quite a long time, but I am back because I have found that I really miss the support and love of the women on these boards. IF is so hard and it can be very, very lonely. It is hard to know who you can talk to and it is VERY frustrating to see all these pregnant women who complain and b*tch about what they are going through.


I started trying in April 05, went to the gyn in Oct 06 and went on Clomid Jan 07. April 07 we went to the RE and had three IUI, 2 with Clomid, one with injectables. Nothing worked. While I O, I O immature eggs based on my progesterone tests. However, u/s showed my eggs matured on my IUI cycles, and my doctor said I probably have some unexplained IF as well.


My theory? Stress and environmental factors played a HUGE role. At the time I went through my Clomid/IUI cycles I was in a job that was so stressful my hair was falling out and when I did my inject/IUI cycle I was moving to another state. Well, the stress and environmental factors are gone (we aren’t living in a dank, filthy apartment with no natural light and mold in the water) but I’m still not pregnant. I tried Clomid again last cycle, unmonitored (I had extra pills) but got AF this morning so that was a bust.


Anyway, I just want to say that I know what you are going through, and I hope that you can find tons of support and love here.

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Registered: 12-21-2007
Sun, 02-17-2008 - 8:54pm

Welcome!!


I have been a member of the "infertile" crowd for 5 years or so. My original diagnosis of being annovulatory was hard and my first husband was sterile for all practical purposes.

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Registered: 05-24-2007
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 11:01am

Thanks for sharing your story. I am sorry to hear of all your trials during TTC.


Know that I will be thinking of you and praying for you to get pregnant.


Does the Clomid work to make you ovulate? I was not ovulating on my own and clomid seemed to help ovulate and get a period, but no pregnanncy after 5 months on it. I have just finished my first round of clomid/gonal-f combo and am going to the dr. tomorrow to look at things and see how I am progressing and talk about when I should take the ovulation trigger shot. I will let you know how it goes.


Be assured of my prayers and know that all of us here know what you are going through. Remember that what we go through only makes us stronger.


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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 6:58pm

Hi there.

              Ashley

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Registered: 08-29-1999
Wed, 02-20-2008 - 10:18pm

Hi.


Clomid did work, I got at least one good sized follicle each cycle I was monitored and I ovulated each time.

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