fustrated-need to vent

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Registered: 02-25-2008
fustrated-need to vent
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Mon, 02-25-2008 - 11:17am

I had my 3rd IUI 2 weeks ago and just got the news yesterday - BFN. I was so upset I cried all day and if I didn’t go to work today I’d spend the whole day today crying. We’ve been trying for 2 years and nothing. It’s so easy for everyone to say "just relax". I’m 40 years old and running out of time. When they told me my test was neg my whole world fell apart. Besides the problem of my age is my husband has ED because of diabetes (yes the commercials are correct–it does effect it). So it’s really hard to come up with the samples. I’m so glad I found this board because other people just don’t get it. I’m the only one out of 23 of my cousins who have no children. It’s so fustrating. No one seems to understand how much it hurts to go to baby showers and christenings or to hear someone is pregnant who wasn’t even trying to get pregnant. I really thought it worked this time. They said my lining was ok his sperm was ok and it was the right time so when I was late I really had my hopes up. Turns out it was the progrestrone I was on was causing AF not to come.

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Registered: 12-10-2007
Mon, 02-25-2008 - 12:29pm

I am so sorry to hear that the IUI did not work for you again. I wish that there were some magic words that I could say. I so understand how you feel, it could have been me that wrote that post. We have tried many IUI and nothing either. My husband also has ED, because of a neck injury it is also hard to get the samples. The last IUI that we did they said that I was in great shape to receive his sample and that his count was pretty good (we have MF infertility) and I also got my hopes up again. The day before the blood test I found out it did not work again. My heart is still in pieces.

What ever you do, don't give up. It will happen, just not when you expect it. Maybe it will be the next one or the one after that, but I am sure that it will happen for you. You are also not too old. You still have time. DON'T GIVE UP.

I am sending you lots of baby dust. I am also giving you the biggest hug that you have ever had. This is the real kind of hug that makes you feel like you are not alone.

Ellen

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Registered: 10-19-2004
Mon, 02-25-2008 - 3:38pm

I am so sorry your IUI didn't work. I know what it feels like to be running out of time...I am 39 1/2 and we are TTC with MFI and many failed procedures. I keep hoping the next wone will give us a sticky, and I hope that for you as well.

-Jenna, 39, DH 36 TTC our first since September '06 with MFI 3 failed natural IUI's, I failed IUI with injectibles, 1 failed IVF, 1 FET ending in early m/c. Taking BCP's in preparation for IVF #2 now.

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- Jenna
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Registered: 09-11-2006
Mon, 02-25-2008 - 9:08pm

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I'm so very sorry to hear about your BFN.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 12:08am

Vent away my dear you are in the right place.

              Ashley

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Registered: 02-25-2008
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 9:19am

We are trying not to go the IVF route only because of the cost. My insurance won’t cover it. Just to let everyone know there are government & private grants but it’s hard to get. I heard there’s a lot of testing involved. We are going to try the IUI again and in the meantime try to get approved for a grant. I’m going to ask the Dr. about possibly raising the dose of the injections I’m on.

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Registered: 02-25-2008
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 9:27am

I'm so happy to hear that what I'm feeling is normal. My mother gets mad at me when I don't go to the baby showers and christenings in my family. I guess because by the time she was my age she was done having kids.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 02-26-2008 - 3:31pm

I know Moms want to get it and yet they struggle with this.

              Ashley

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Thu, 02-28-2008 - 9:00pm
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Fri, 02-29-2008 - 9:49am

I am so sorry that your IUI didn't work.

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Registered: 02-25-2008
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 10:25am
I know what you mean about being honest w/those around you. I have been trying to let people know how I feel. Sometimes it does help when I explain to people why I don't go to these things. I tell them I am happy for them but it just hurts.

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