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Sat, 03-08-2008 - 7:30pm

Hello:


My name is Kerri and I am new to this site.  I was referred by a friend.  I guess it would be good if I told you my story.


1st my DH (me 32 he 36) and I have been happily married for 10 1/2 years and I have mild PCOS (just hormonal no outward symtoms like cycts)  I have had 4 m/c's in the last 4 years. (actually a total of 5) I had a m/c back in October of 2002 but I had no idea that I had been pg until it was over. 


 9/04  at 5 weeks ectopic  (on clomid)  ---


6/1/05   at 6 weeks (on cloimid)


8/05  at 8 weeks  (pg cycle after m/c) d&c


and the most recent was 1/08  at 7 weeks D&d on 1/29   This one was devestating.  My DH and I had really given up  on getting pg.  We had tried so hard for 3 years after being married for 6 years and never doing anything to prevent getting pg and it not happing on it's own I thought I would really talk to my doc and maybe get some help .  My first gyn put me on clomid 50 mg.  I got pg the first month! which ended in the ectopic then it took 9 months and back on clomid and wouldn't you know I got pg the first month back on it....that ended after only a week.  My doc sort of blew me off and said he "doesn't deal" with multiple m/c's cases.  So I found a new Doc.  who I loooovvvee and made my appt for the next month July 05'  I went in for my 1st appt and they ran tests and did b/w and..... two days later the Dr. Love. :) .... called me at work and said "I think you are pregnant"  I was elated!  He immedatley put me on Progestrone supps and I was off.. It was like it was meant to happen.  I got to 8 weeks and at my first u/s  and.....no heartbeat.  I was crushed.  over the last 2 years I have been trying to move on and get on with my life.  I knew there was no reason to "be careful" because I had been on b/c pills for 8 months because I had a brief moment of insanity and thought about going back on clomid in March of 07' and Dr. Love said we could try birth control pills for three months and then clomid. Well..... I came to my senses and decided to stay on them a liiiittle longer that three months.  I took my self off of them in September because I had gained some weight and I had resolved myself that children were not going to happen for me.  Well Christmas came and went and it was a litter eaiser this year and I made a New Year's resolution that I was going to work on ME this year.  ME..... found out just after new year's that she was pg.  You could have pushed me over with a feather.  Really.  But... Jan 28th I got the call that it was not a viable pregnancy and on Jan29th I had a D,C & E.  I only found out through some blood work that I may have a folic acid deficency.  Has anyone heard or go through this?


Sorry to ramble on like this but.....  I don't know where to turn.  No one in my Dh's family has ever had a m/c and he comes from a family of 5 kids.  I don't have a relationship with my family.  (long story) and DH has been tested and Dr. Love actually called him "Super sperm man"  yeah I know a little insensitive but I still Love my Doc.  I had HSG done and the tubes are clear .   I know I though I was done but this last pg has given me a little ( a very little) hope that something might happen.  I just need to know if it actually works out for someone.


No one has to respond to this bit of babble.  But if you do.  I could really use some words of wisdom.


Thanks for reading this bit of dribble


Kerri


 


 

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Registered: 11-03-2007
In reply to: ivy_kay1975
Sat, 03-08-2008 - 9:45pm

Kerri,


I have never had a m/c but I know many people who have.

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Registered: 09-11-2006
In reply to: ivy_kay1975
Mon, 03-10-2008 - 1:06am

Hello Kerri!


Welcome to the board.

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Registered: 03-08-2008
In reply to: ivy_kay1975
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 8:43pm

Hello:


Susan & Karla


Thank you so much for your kind words.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: ivy_kay1975
Wed, 03-12-2008 - 11:35pm

Kerrianne,


I'm so sorry for your losses and heartache!!!!

              Ashley

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Registered: 03-12-2007
In reply to: ivy_kay1975
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 12:31am

Hi, Kerri.

I am so, so sorry to hear of your losses. I also have been diagnosed with mild PCOS, but my problem is that I can't get pregnant in the first place. I do, however, have a very close friend who has had multiple miscarriages in a short time. I've seen first hand how devastating that is, how much grief and mourning is involved.

I echo the other sentiments here, and would add that I've just started acupuncture as well. My acupuncturist (who is also an RE) said there was an acupuncture regime for women who have had multiple m/c. It is certainly worth a try.

I also started seeing a therapist to help me with all of the emotional repercussions of infertility. Not many people really get how hard this is.

Welcome to the board, and best wishes as you move forward.

kris

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Registered: 03-08-2008
In reply to: ivy_kay1975
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 7:42pm

Ashley & Kris


Thanks for the thoughts ladies.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: ivy_kay1975
Thu, 03-13-2008 - 9:24pm
I do not understand the links between clotting and folic acid either, let me know if you get any answers!

              Ashley

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Registered: 03-11-2008
In reply to: ivy_kay1975
Sun, 03-16-2008 - 5:17am

Hi there,


So sorry about all that you are going through. To add to what Kris and Ashley said, I have found that seeing a therapist is immensely helpful. It's only been a week for me since I've been told I need to start treatments (this is all brand new to me, unlike many of the women on this board) so I've been calling my therapist at her home at night and writing to her and seeing her often and she has been so, so great. I would have gone insane right about now without her.

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Registered: 03-08-2008
In reply to: ivy_kay1975
Sun, 03-16-2008 - 5:28pm

Caren


That was so sweet of you to reply.