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| Sun, 03-16-2008 - 12:23am |
Hello everyone
My name is Rachel. I have been reading your posts and I just want to put my arms around everyone. Let me tell you about myself. I am 32 and I am getting married in May. My future husband is 35. I guess I am here becuase something tells me that I don't know if I will get pregnant easily. Although I think I am ok, the one I think that may have trouble is my future husband( yes I still will marry him no matter what happens) We plan to ttc on our wedding night!! I guess its' his past that raises questions. Since he has had ex's, not one got pregnant ( some already had children) and he did not always use protection. He also had hernia surgery at age six in his groin area, so I think that may be a factor. I am not sure. Unless we both get tested. Sometimes I feel he may be infertile or maybe even me! I don't know why I am even thinking like this. We are not even actively trying.I know it is too early to think about it, but I really want to be a mom soon. I already have my biological ticking so loud!!! The other day I was in Babies'R' Us, just becuase...
Also I know how it feels when someone you are close to is not able to have children. My BF since the 3rd grade, is not able to. I wish I could do something to help her have a baby. I have even had the thought of carrying a child for her, but I could not give up the baby, since I want one real bad myself. My best friend has PCOS and she got married at 18, it has been 14 years now and still no baby. Her husband got tested and he is fine. They are even adopting, but that has proven heartwrenching as well. The baby is from another country and paperwork is taking too long!!
I always make sure that I am not insensitive to her feelings and I try to be positive for her becuase I tell her there is still hope to have a baby. She is still young (32 also), but she says she has faced the fact that she may never have a child. Man I feel real bad. I can't even imagine how she may feel inside. I just get so angry that there are people out there who have kids left and right and yet they abuse them, neglect them, you have people throwing them off bridges!!! I mean what is going on in this world! And here you have a wonderful couple, who go to church, have a beautiful home and a nursery already, with no baby... Just so unfair!
Anyways , I just want to say that.. Thanks for reading my post. I wish you all the best and much baby dust to you all....


Hello Rachel,
Welcome to the board!