I want to punch my father in the face

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Registered: 03-31-2008
I want to punch my father in the face
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Mon, 03-31-2008 - 6:14pm

My mother was diagnosed several months back with advanced liver cancer, we have been struggling with issues like her care and she has had some very bad months and some surprising good months and right now the cancer isn't advancing and she is stable so we are all thankful.


My father calls me and I know the man is suffering as well, he has been married to her for 54 years and I am sure he is going through more than I can imagine.
That being said if he EVER calls me again and says "You know if you got pregnant that could literally save your mother's life!" I will reach through the phone and pinch his head right off his body.

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Registered: 09-11-2006
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 7:47pm

(zeppozeppo)


I'm so sorry that your dad is putting so much pressure on you.

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Registered: 03-11-2008
Mon, 03-31-2008 - 8:36pm

How awful for you. I'm so sorry -dealing with fertility issues, a sick mother and an irrational father all at the same time. It sounds like he is an older man (since you said he has been married to your mom 54 years). But you should tell him how you feel, get it off your chest. Don't bottle it up or you will feel worse. Anger is bad when trying to conceive, and you have so much else to deal with regarding your mother's care. Speak calmly and respectfully, but do speak.


Thinking of you and wishing you the best.


Caren (wifeofalex)

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Registered: 03-31-2008
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 10:09am

Thank you for responding, you know I haven't been here in almost two years (since my last miscarriage) I guess I kind of wanted to take a break and I was going to reintroduce myself but then I got that phone call and I guess I got angrier than I expected.


Thanks again.


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Registered: 03-31-2008
Tue, 04-01-2008 - 10:15am

Thank you - your advice is well accepted and very sage.