Trying to be strong

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Trying to be strong
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Mon, 08-04-2008 - 2:49pm

*baby mentioned*


So I am here visiting my friends and in-laws this week.  During the weekend DH was in Vegas for a bachalor party and I was here.  So instead of staying with my in-laws by myself I spent some time with my best friend, her DH and her 5 month old daughter.  I was a little nervous about it at first but I though I could handle it.


Suprisingly things went very well and we talked about thinngs we haven't talked about in awhile.  I told her that if I get upset that it has nothing to do with her, it is just me dealing with my emotions and situation.  The problem for her and I now is her daughter is her whole life because she is a stay at home mom.  So she really has nothing to talk about is her daughter and that is usaully the last thing I want to talk about. 


How come this whole process affect our friendships with people so close to us? 

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TTC TTC #1 since June 2006, Me 27& DH 29, IVF #1 ICSI and AH ~ BFN, IVF #2 Sept or Oct, DX ~ DOR not POF, TTC w/ the assitance of Traditional Chinese Medicine

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Registered: 03-11-2008
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 10:21pm
I know what you mean...our friends who had a baby a month ago never call us anymore, because we told them it was too hard for us to hang out with them and other parents at the same time (they had a party for mommies and babies and we declined). We never meant to alienate them, we just didn't want to be at a big baby gathering. Them alone is one thing, but I don't think they understood and now we never hear from them anymore. It's tough, isn't it?
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Mon, 08-04-2008 - 10:22pm

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Registered: 06-22-2008
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 11:09pm

Marisa,


Please know that when school starts back, I'm in that teacher's lounge with you in spirit!

Erin & Ryan Sig
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Registered: 03-23-2002
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 11:55pm

Sending ((hugs)).

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Mon, 08-04-2008 - 11:59pm

Thank you everyone!

  

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Registered: 03-23-2002
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 12:07am

((Susan))


It is so hard to wait....but you are so right....there is a little one out there for you.

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Registered: 05-20-2008
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 1:06am

Steph,


I am so glad you found us because I guess I am in need of someone who has had success.

  

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Registered: 01-07-2008
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 9:23am

I completely understand.

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Registered: 06-22-2008
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 11:23am

Steph,
I literally got chills reading your second to last post. It's good to see the successes in IF. I'm glad you're here, too.


And I'll second that "happy for a friend's #1 but #2+ is just 'eh'"


Erin

Erin & Ryan Sig
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Registered: 03-23-2002
Tue, 08-05-2008 - 12:26pm

Erin,


Thank you so much for your kind reply.

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