Need to vent about my mother
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|Wed, 08-06-2008 - 5:09pm|
So...I am driving to Pilates class last night and chatting with my mother during the drive. (I find it easier to multi-task with the hands free earpiece so I can accomplish something during the 45 minute drive from work besides just surviving the commute.) For some reason, my mother goes off on this tangent about how there were always those sad old women in the neighborhood when she was growing up that people would whisper about because their husbands have died and they (wait for the hushed tone) couldn't have children, adding that it was always assumed to be the woman's fault. To make it that much worse, she started going on about how historically husbands have divorced or marginalized wives that could not have children and married the newer younger model.
I was just floored. I'm her child and I'm the one with the major fertility issues and this is a discussion I want to have with Mom who, I thought, is supposed to be supportive and make me feel better during difficult times. What the heck was that about? Needless to say, I cut short the conversation. Mom asked if I was going to hang up on her, I said yes and clicked the end button. She left a sad little voicemail a while ago apologizing if she had said something insensitive. From the tone, I don't think she realized that her topics of conversation were hurtful to me.
Heck, I've even had the conversation with DH that he should apparently trade me in for an even younger model (i'm 15 years younger than him) so he could find someone who could actually reproduce. Thankfully, he reminded me that was a stupid idea. Not sure if I'm going to call Mom during today's drive or let her stew for another day and try to figure out why I'm annoyed. And I'm heading to me new RE in the morning and was actually starting to feel a little positive since I will get someone else's opinion besides the annoying RE.
Thanks for the venting time!