Need to vent about co worker!!!!!!!!!

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Need to vent about co worker!!!!!!!!!
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Fri, 09-19-2008 - 9:01pm

     Ok- In general, I have been pretty close with this team of teachers that I work with & sometimes we even hang out like go out to dinner after work.... well, recently one of them became pg.  Of course I am jealous- she had not been married for a year & it "just happened" as soon as she went off the pill.  She is not the problem though, she & the others have been really sensitive not to talk a lot about pg. & babies around me & I do understand if pg. co worker talks about it sometimes - like a "give & take" friendship.  Anyway, one of the older workers ( she is a 55 single mom) has been sooooooo insensitive & talking real loud in front of me about her pregnancy, giving her advice to pg. girl, etc. & it has really been bothering me.  I used to be good friends with that woman, but now we are drifting apart b/c of her insensitivity....  I just walk away when she does that & talk to someone else. 


     She has also said all the bad comments like "just relax"  "adopt & you'll get pg," & "Maybe you're not eating right".... like the IF is my fault :(.  I tried to confront her about it & she said that she doesn't care if we talk about our husbands & she doesn't think she says or does anything wrong!!!  We also had a couple of fights about other things lately & I want to be professional & keep the peace at work, but I think I need to distance myself from her for my own sanity-lol just to look out for myself!!!!  In my opinion I think she is being really mean when she knows I have IF!!!!!  She had her son at age 39 & so she doesn't take me seriously when I say I have IF even though I have been to a specialist for 2 1/2 years!  


    Thanks for letting me vent :) Marisa


           

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Fri, 09-19-2008 - 9:12pm
((( HUGS))) i'm so sorry. I think you should just do as you said and distance yourself. You don't need people in your life like that right now. I'm not sure I can say this how I am thinking it ( in my head I have great thoughts but when it comes out my fingers or mouth it is nothing like whats in my head so sorry if it sounds weird.) Negative people or those who just don't get it I think gives you stress and stress can do funky things with your body. You get tense and then things just don't go right. Does that make sense?
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Fri, 09-19-2008 - 9:16pm

((HUGS)) Marisa.

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Fri, 09-19-2008 - 11:35pm
(((HUGS)))
  

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Sat, 09-20-2008 - 1:44am
vent away Marisa.
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Sat, 09-20-2008 - 8:37am

You got it girl.

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Sat, 09-20-2008 - 10:13am

Like everyone else said, vent away and get away. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Some people are just so thick skulled they'll never see their insensitivity.


*hugs*


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Sun, 09-21-2008 - 8:33pm
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Mon, 09-22-2008 - 9:01am

ARG, Marisa!!!! I love how people think that all IF is the same!!! Like everyone said, I think you're doing the right thing by just distancing your self. And like Terri said, if she asks why you have prime opportunity to tell her, and if she STILL doesn't get it, well then you know where you stand with her. All this is now really teaching me about empathy and sensitivity towards other people's problems, IF or not. Now I KNOW I'll never be one of those women that tries to get attention by COMPLAINING about being PG!! Hang in there, YOU GOT US!!!! he he he

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Mon, 09-22-2008 - 6:37pm
Thanks!!!
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Mon, 09-22-2008 - 8:35pm
Good for you! And if she ever offers "advice" again, as Sarah Palin says, "Thanks, but no thanks!" (Sorry, couldn't resist...)


- Connie




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Me-37, DH-28


TTC 2 years - MFI


IVF #1 March 2008 - BFN (cycle too long/lining too old)


IVF #2 September 2008 - BFN (currently unknown/will find out 9/24)



- Connie

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Me-38, DH-29
TTC 2 years - MFI
IVF #1 M

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