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|Tue, 11-04-2008 - 12:54pm|
OK....so I finally read some of my aunt's emails that I had been ignoring....and then I had to call one of my cousins for more details....and it turns out my 41 year old divorced/single cousin is pregnant....with an OOPS....from a few-night stand who wants nothing to do with her or the baby...and then the kicker- she is somewhere around 8 months and didn't want to let the rest of the family know because of 'what we would think'.
I have been TRYING so hard to get pregnant!!!! THIS IS SO NOT FAIR!!!!!!! WHAT GIVES!?!?!?!?!?!?
She travels every week for her job, so she has dumped off her first child with her ex-husband. Her mother (one of my aunts) lives with her to be a full-time granny/nanny to the second child (years of IF, conceived with meds and IUI). She had gastric bypass/lap bad surgery, lost ~150 lbs, started traveling for her job, got divorced, and blammo- I am upset for my own selfish reasons, but also I can't believe she's out there having unprotected sex with such a loser.
The aunt who broke the news to the rest of the family wants us to email or send something to cheer her up, etc. SO, they didn't want us to know- but now they want to be cheered up, get presents, etc....BLAH.
They have no ideas of my IF struggles...and they would be completely insensitive and inappropriate to me if they did. I guess the silver lining is that she tried for several years with her ex to have their second child, and had to do a few med. IUI's....and now she gets this miracle (well, I consider it a miracle) out of the blue at age 41. So that gives me a little hope I guess.
Me 31, C 33. Together since 1994. TTC Since November 2006. Me-Low thyroid function, cystic ovaries but not PCOS C-1st SA rockstar except low morph, 2nd SA still low morph and now borderline motility....trying 3 unmonitored cycles of Femara....then it's back to the RE for me and the RE/Urologist for him