Baby Shower coming up.....

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Baby Shower coming up.....
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Thu, 11-13-2008 - 10:24pm
     Hi all!!  It figures... the day after my BFN I get an invitation to a baby shower!!!  It is in a few weeks- It will be hard for me, but I would feel bad not going... She has been one of my best friends at work.  Hopefully I'll survive... any tips?? I haven't had to go to one in a while.  Thanks!! Marisa 

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Registered: 08-10-2007
Thu, 11-13-2008 - 10:35pm

Hi Marisa,


Wow, that figures. :( Honestly I wouldn't go.

Remembering o

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Registered: 06-28-2008
Thu, 11-13-2008 - 10:57pm
I'm so sorry Marisa, I haven't gone to one in a
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Registered: 03-17-2008
Fri, 11-14-2008 - 8:54am

Hi:


I'm in agree with PP. If she is a really good friend, she'll understand that it will be difficult for you to attend. A nice gift and maybe taking her out to lunch, (just the two of you) might be ok.


If you feel you should go, i like the idea about helping in the kitchen. I would also work out a way to leave graciously if it is just too overwhelming and I would probably tell the showeree that as well. that way, she understands and isn't left guessing why you took off.


Good luck,


Gabrielle


IVF 1# ICSI & AH-BFN


Waiting for DH to come home to try again!


In the meantime, herbs and prayers


Check out my fertility blogs at http://soldierinstirrups.blogspot.com/

Franklin and Callan

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Registered: 10-31-2008
Fri, 11-14-2008 - 9:02am

Hi Marisa,


Talk about bad timing.

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Registered: 01-08-2008
Fri, 11-14-2008 - 11:33am

hi marisa,

it's important to remember that you don't have to go. i made that decision for the last 2 baby showers. it would have been too traumatic for me. what i did was send them a gift (giftcards to where they were registered) and a card saying i was sorry i couldn't make it, but look forward to seeing her soon and meeting baby soon. i find it's torture to see a woman (even if it's someone you love and are glad for them) not only get a pg, something you'd give anything for (and she probably didn't have to!), but that she's now being celebrated with gifts, attention, etc. my recommendation is if you feel comfortable not going, then don't go. if you feel like you have to go, have some nice comforting things to do for yourself when you get back (like wine or a nice drink that your friend can't have!). i've found that during the even i go into shock and get through it, and fall apart afterwards. IF is hard enough...

ana


TTC since Sept '06. Diagnosed w/ PCOS, DH diagnosed with azoospermia Dec '06, TESA Mar '07
IVF/ICSI/AZH#1 Aug'07, BFN (6 usable eggs, 5 embies, 2 transferred, 1st beta=18, 2nd beta=12, 0 made it to blast to freeze)
IVF/ICSI#2:retrieval Nov'07 (w/ fresh TESA), FET sched Jan'08, no embryos to transfer (23 usable eggs, 12 embies, 0 made it to transfer)
IVF/ICSI#3: retrieval Mar'08, FET May'08, BFN (13 usable eggs, 7 fertilized w/ DH sperm= 0 blasts, 6 fertlized w/ DS=3 blasts, all 3 transferred, 1st beta=74, 2nd beta=64, 3rd beta=42)
1st cycle IUI/clomid/donor sperm postponed due to lack of follicular growth on 100mg clomidx5days.

ana

mom to beautiful baby lia.
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Registered: 06-16-2008
Fri, 11-14-2008 - 11:56am
Marisa, I second what the other

 

Angela

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Sat, 11-15-2008 - 4:28pm
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Registered: 05-20-2008
Sat, 11-15-2008 - 5:51pm
Marisa GL at the babyshower!!
  

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Registered: 05-19-2008
Sat, 11-15-2008 - 7:59pm

We talked about this last month at my infertility seminars.


Basically, our counselor told us to set ourselves a goal and stick to it. For example, promise yourself you will ONLY STAY for a half hour. Come up with an excuse: you have a deadline, an important errand to run, whatever. Only stay for a half hour. If you stay for longer than that, you can be proud of yourself for meeting AND beating your goal.


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Sat, 11-15-2008 - 9:40pm

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