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|Fri, 12-12-2008 - 11:52am|
This is not really a ventâ€¦.just thought it was eye-opening to me.
There is an egg donation office near my work and a co-worker tells me that a lady from that office told her she could get her $10,000 for her eggs. So needless to say, this co-worker says she is going to do itâ€¦she's all starry-eyed with $$. This girl doesnâ€™t know about me TTC or any of the IF treatments that Iâ€™ve been through. I asked her if she did any research or if she knows anything about the egg donation process. She said the lady gave her paperwork to fill out and told her she would just need some b/w to determine blood type and that she would just have to do a couple of shotsâ€¦theyâ€™re no big dealâ€¦she could even come to that office and they could do it for herâ€¦the whole process would take a couple of weeksâ€¦and thatâ€™s all!
Iâ€™m not at all comfortable talking with this girl that Iâ€™ve been through this process but I didnâ€™t want her getting into it without knowing more before so I told her that I knew about it from someone. I told her that she would need to be on track with the lady receiving the eggs (she thought they just take the eggs whenever) so she would probably need to be on BCP or another shot a few weeks before. I told her she would probably be on 1-3 shots a day depending on the plan and where she is in the cycle. She had no idea about possible daily ultrasounds (yes down there!) and b/w. She had no idea about overstimulation. She had no idea about the anesthesia for the ER or how many eggs they take (she thought 1 or 2) and she didnâ€™t know where they took the eggs from. Plus, she was appalled that the lady receiving the eggs got to pick the doctor! I told her of course she doesâ€¦after all they are the oneâ€™s paying for it and hoping for a baby.
I find out later that day that another girl in the office was asked to be an egg donor as well. The first girl started talking about how she was going to do the egg donation a few times and she was going to quit working and just live off of the $. The other girl says that she would do it not for the $, but because there are so many people that want babies and canâ€™t have them. So the first girl says oh yeah thatâ€™s why I would do it too! Sure :)
So a few days later, a few of us from work went out to lunch. The girl talks about how her boyfriend says that if she does the egg donation he is going to leave her because he thinks it is unethical and if God wanted people to have a baby then they would by themselves. She didn't like earlier when I told her that she shouldnâ€™t have sex during the process if she didnâ€™t want to become pg and even have the chance of multiples. I guess at least she wonâ€™t have to worry about that if her boyfriend leaves her! :)
Another girl asked if she was worried about using up her own eggs since women are born with only a certain amount. The girl says oh no women have an unlimited # of eggs and guys are the ones that have only a certain amount of sperm! Geez ladiesâ€¦can you imagine with the amount of you know what that most guys have done as teenagersâ€¦there would be no sperm left for us! :) Even though I know doing egg donation a few times wouldnâ€™t lower her amount of eggs to any significant level, I was still surprised at what she was saying.
By the end of lunch, I find out this girl is a heavy pot smoker! She said she didnâ€™t write this on her paperwork or that she takes anti-depressants because she didnâ€™t want to be rejected. The lady at the egg donation office told her she already has a couple that wants her eggs! That was fast. I guess this office must be short on donors.
This has me thinking about egg donation in a new light. If I ever possibly ended up having to go down that route, it makes me want to try to find a known donor if possible. I guess it is just hard for me to know now that I would have to trust someone with possibly a future child of mine and know that I have no control over whether theyâ€™re being honest or not.
Just thought I would share thisâ€¦I was stunned by it. I guess I just always assumed the egg donor cared and protected the little eggies like we do and that the egg donation office would be more responsible.
ME (28), DH (29) TTC #1 since March 2006. Dx: PCOS variant
3/06 to 3/07 TTC on own; 4/07: Clomid 50mg-O,BFN; 5/07: Clomid 50mg-O,BFN; 6/07: Clomid 50mg & Metformin-O,BFN; 7/07: 1st RE appt; 8/07: IUI #1-Femara(3-7) & Ovidrel-BFN; 9/07: IUI #2-Femara(3-7) & Ovidrel-BFN; 10/07: IUI #3-Femara(3-7)& Ovidrel-BFP! 12/14/07-m/c @7w. Testing revealed chromosomally normal girl. Forced break until 3/08: IUI #4-Femara(3-7) with Follistim boosting 75 units(6,8,9) & Ovidrel-BFN; BCPx2wks to treat resulting cyst; 4/08: IUI #5 with only Follistim 75(3-7), more than 4 follicles on u/s, converted to IVF #1, 7 of 10 fertilized with ICSI, 2 transferred-BFN; 6/08: IUI #5-Femara(3-7) with Follistim alternating 50 & 75 units(3-7) & Ovidrel-BFN; 7/08 thru 9/08: IVF #2 with BCP, Lupron, Follistim 50 am/pm, ER-10 eggs, 5 out of 5 fertilized ICSI, 3 out of 5 fertilized standard, 2 transferred-BFN; 10/08: IUI #6-Femara(3-5 only), Follistim 50 units (6-11), 3 to 4 dominant follicles on u/s, Dr. wanted to cxl cycle due to chance of multiples but we continued on-BFP! Betas went down :(
Where we are now: IUI #7-Femara (3-5 only) & Follistim (6,7,8,9) with Metformin, u/s & E2 on 12/02-follies growing! 12/03-Ovidrel trigger, 12/05-IUI, Now in the 2ww