My stupid friend
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|Tue, 04-21-2009 - 1:57pm|
Ok so this is a story about my stupid friend. Sorry it long
A couple of week ago I was out for coffee with 3 friends. 2 of them are not TTC, 1 is. She (Lets call her the moron) has for about a year. She was convinced she had a problem (lied to the doc about how long shes been trying shes 32 and here you have to be over 35 or trying for over a year before the doc wants to see you) and went for tests and was told there was nothing wrong with her so they said she was in the 20% unexplained for fertility problems category.
So we are sitting there discussing someone else we know that just had a MC. I was saying something and she kept cutting me off and correcting me. She is a person that thinks she knows everything. I have had 2 MCs and I think I know a little more than her, I was getting really pissed so pissed I couldnt say anything or I would lose it. The others noticed and we changed the subject.
So later the moron was complaining she was going to have to do IVF and how much it was going to cost. I said to her that it doenst make sense there are other options she should be trying first, there is Clomid and different shots. She should really look into different options before IVF. After all the docs didnt find anything wrong with her which is great. I couldnt understand why the doc would start with IVF.
Anyway the next day she calls me to apologize for upsetting me about the MC discussion and I put that aside and had a long conversation with her about options. We spoke for 2 hours about HER and HER getting TTC.
Now fast forward 2 weeks later. I get a phone call from the moron, she is 9 weeks PG. I congratulate her and get off the phone. Wait... 9 weeks, 2 weeks ago she couldnt get PG and was going to do IVF? She was 7 weeks while we were talking about her TTC. WTF! I called my other friends who also figured this out after they got off the phone with her too. The moron lied about having fertility problems! We were all pissed, but especially me!! I couldnt call her to ask her about it because she is PG and I was going to kill her! So I waited a few days and cooled down. My 2 friends and I decided to all go for coffee with the moron and ask her whats up? She ended up going on a few trips we had to put it off and we finally went the other day.
So now shes 11 weeks and we went for coffee. Keep in mind I NEVER raised my voice I stayed VERY calm and we did NOT gang up on her. She gets crazy when you confront her and that is why we did it together, so she cant say we did anything we didnt do. So she was talking about how many weeks is was so I said "funny you bring that up..." and I asked her why did you do that? Did you think we wouldnt figure it out? We can do the math. How could you have that conversation with ME. She first yelled at me "come on Cynthia!!"and got very defensive, then got upset and kept saying that she isnt a good friend. She was right she isnt and I am only friends with her cause Ive know her for 17 years. So her answer.... she didnt want to tell us she was PG because our other friend was MCing. I told her "I totally respect that. You have every right to tell us when you are ready. Thats not why I am mad. You talked about being infertile WHILE you were PG. That really hurt me." She confessed she lied because she thought if she didnt continue to complain about her fertility issue we would figure out she was PG. Yeah its all about her. She got so worked up and upset we had to calm her down. We told her to just not lie agian and we left it at that. I couldnt say everything I wanted to because I was afraid of her getting over emotional. Funny eh. I was more concerned with her, why? because she is PG and I didnt want HER to have stress. We left it on a good note.
Thanks for letting me vent!
DH 34 and me 36 Weâ€™ve been together 16 years married Sep 2004. TTC our first since Dec 2004.
Conceived using Provera and Clomid - MC April 03 2006
Conceived naturally surprise! - MC July 07 2008
Found out I have PCOS, MTHFR and Factor V Lieden so I will be a high risk pregnancy and have to inject myself every day with Fragmin.
God please just give me 1 healthy baby please!
Edited 4/21/2009 2:42 pm ET by girliegirl08
Edited 4/21/2009 3:11 pm ET by girliegirl08