Why did I think this might acually work?

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Why did I think this might acually work?
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 9:26am

URGH, just got in from my u/s and b/w this morning and things aren't looking good. I am basically not responding to the stims. I am on day 8 of stims and only have 6 follies, one of which is over 10. It is looking like my IVF cycle is going to get canceled. The nurse said they would wait to get my b/w results and discuss it this afternoon with the RE and let me know what to do. She said we could possibly convert this cycle to an IUI.

I asked her if it was looking like ovarian failure and she agreed that it was.

I am beyond depressed. I can't believe I let myself think this would actually work. I let my guard down and got all excited at the prospect of getting pg and having a healthy baby. It's obvious that it is just not in the cards for me. There has been one obstacle after another, when I am just going to let myself give up? DH asked me what I wanted to do, donor eggs? adopt? And I just can't even think about it right now. I'm numb.



I'm 37, DH is 41 and we are TTC #1. We've had 2 unexplained miscarriages and a bout with Asherman's Syndrome but we're determined.

IUI #1 = BFN

IUI #2 (Aug 09) = BFN

On to IVF - stims start Sept 14th! 



I'm 38, DH is 42 and we are TTC #1. We've had 3 unexplained miscarriages and a bout with Asherman's Syndrome but we're determined.

BFP #4! - 1/


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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 9:44am

Oh Kelly, I'm so sorry.

Mom to Sebastian Robert after 3+ years of infertility

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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 9:59am

Oh Kelly, I'm so very sorry. This has got to be very very hard news to get!

I remember being at aptmts and getting disappointing news and it's so hard. I cannot really relate to the exact news you received but I wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and wish I could help! Also, there is nothing wrong with you trying and hoping this cycle would work, or that any cycle would work. You have to try. And donor eggs are another way of trying. But you'll have to decide if that's the route for you. i just wanted you to know I thoroughly believe in not giving up! Give yourself some time to think and maybe to break away for a bit, even if just a few days.

Great big HUGS!!!


Me-30, DH newly 34, diagnosed with PCOS in Nov/Dec 2008. 3 Failed cycles of Clomid. (50mg, 100mg, 150mg) Started working with RE Nov 26. Asked for & started M

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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 10:35am
Kelly I am so sorry!


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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 10:58am

My heart is truly breaking for you right now Kelly.

Me - 26, DH- 32, DH and I have been together since January 2003, happily married since September 2007, TTC our first for over 1 year.  Dx with MFI, low morphology.  Currently getting ready to start our first round of

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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 11:00am


I am sorry that you got this bad news today.



Me 32, C 34. Toge

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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 11:16am
Kelly, I'm so sorry...that is such a bummer. I hope you get better news and this somehow works out...



Mason James was born 8/21/10, 8lbs 12 oz after close to 3 years of infertility.
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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 11:25am

Kelly, I was just thinking about you and Isabel this morning and hoping that everything would go well for both of your cycles.


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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 11:31am

Hi Kelly,

I'm so sorry you have such disappointing news and this cycle is not going well.


TTC since 6/2007. 
IVF #1 Jan 2009 - BFN
IVF# 2  April 2009 - BFN
IVF# 3 July

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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 12:50pm


I am so sorry for you that this cycle may not work out. ((((HUGS)))). I wish there were a "right" thing to say, but just know that we're thinking of you.

Sending Positive Thoughts Your Way,





Rachael (25)


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Mon, 09-21-2009 - 1:08pm


(((HUGGSSS))) I am so sorry. I wish I knew the right thing to say. I am saddened by your news. I really hope you can