Donor is MIA

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Donor is MIA
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Sun, 11-29-2009 - 3:47pm

(cross-posted)

Well I got a call today I was totally not expecting, and I am totally freaking out. The donor was supposed to go in Fri. morning and she didn't come in, and she called and said she was stuck in a snowstorm in PA. So she was supposed to go in Sat instead, and she never showed, and didn't call. They have left her 3 messages over the course of the weekend and haven't heard from her. We are literally days away from ER. At this point we don't know if she's still taking her meds, if she's okay, if she's on board, but it's not looking good. We actually checked and there were no reports of snow in PA this week, so....

The nurse said she would call me tomorrow after the cycling hours and let me know if she shows or if they hear from her. I am just so sad, angry, and shocked- I can't believe this happened again. That's donor number three and three strikes and you're out. So needless to say if this doesn't happen we're done with this clinic, and maybe done with DE for the time being.

We decided that if this doesn't happen we are going to start over at another clinic, and see if they feel like it's worth trying again with my eggs. The money we would have spent on DE is almost 2 IVF cycles, and maybe another clinc/lab will have better luck getting us viable embryos. I'm trying to see this as a blessing in disguise, or at least as a sign that this is not the right direction for us. Anyway, please just send some prayers that this works out one way or another.

 


Amber



  • TTC #1 since March 2007
  • 3 failed IUI's w/injectables
  • IVF #1- embryos didn't develop well, BFN 10/6/08
  •  Lap on 10/16 showed moderate endo
  • IUI #4 BFN on 12/1/08
  • IVF #2 poor embie development again, BFN 1/21/09
  • Finally doing our first DE cycle! Started Lupron 11/10, ER estimated for 12/2, ET 12/5-12/7, Please, oh please!

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    Amber



    Mason James was born 8/21/10, 8lbs 12 oz after close to 3 years of infertility.

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    Registered: 03-07-2009
    In reply to: adav75
    Sun, 11-29-2009 - 4:04pm

    Omg, I am so

     Lori


     


    DH and I are 33yrs old. TTC #1 since May08| July09- Dx POF|  Aug09- started Premarin, Metformin, and Lupron

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    In reply to: adav75
    Sun, 11-29-2009 - 4:57pm
    Thanks, Lori. I know, it just doesn't make sense. She cycled there twice before with no problems. It's like I'm doomed to have donors flake out on me.

     


    Amber



    Mason James was born 8/21/10, 8lbs 12 oz after close to 3 years of infertility.
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    In reply to: adav75
    Sun, 11-29-2009 - 4:59pm
    What?!


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    In reply to: adav75
    Sun, 11-29-2009 - 6:37pm

    It didnt make sense before but given the fact that she has already done 2 cycles, that's just weird. Maybe she screwed up her meds and is afraid to admit it. I could list off "what if's" all day...im sure you could to. I hope you get some good news tomorrow and things are back on track.


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     Lori


     


    DH and I are 33yrs old. TTC #1 since May08| July09- Dx POF|  Aug09- started Premarin, Metformin, and Lupron

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    In reply to: adav75
    Sun, 11-29-2009 - 7:38pm

    I know. It doesn't make sense.

    Thanks, me too.

     


    Amber



    Mason James was born 8/21/10, 8lbs 12 oz after close to 3 years of infertility.
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    Registered: 03-11-2008
    In reply to: adav75
    Sun, 11-29-2009 - 10:02pm

    Wow, I am freaking out for you reading this. Oh god!!! I am definitely praying for you...Before reading this I was going to email you about getting together this week like we'd discussed, but you probably need to figure out what's going on before we do that...having said that, I'm around if you want to vent in person or just be distracted........Big big ((((HUGS))))))))).


    -C

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    In reply to: adav75
    Mon, 11-30-2009 - 7:05am

    Oh Amber.

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    In reply to: adav75
    Mon, 11-30-2009 - 9:25am

    I can't believe that, omg Amber I am so sorry!

    I hope she shows and everything is still okay. I can't imagine why someone would just bail this close to ER.

    Prayers for it to all work out!

     

    Kelly

    I'm 38, DH is 42 and we are TTC #1. We've had 3 unexplained miscarriages and a bout with Asherman's Syndrome but we're determined.

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    In reply to: adav75
    Mon, 11-30-2009 - 11:29am

    OMG!

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    Mon, 11-30-2009 - 1:01pm
    My first reaction was..."Nooooo!" I am floored that someone is capable of putting you in this position.

    ~Christine~


    TTC since 6/2007. 
    IVF #1 Jan 2009 - BFN
    IVF# 2  April 2009 - BFN
    IVF# 3 July

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