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|Tue, 07-06-2010 - 10:02pm|
When we first starting going through IF treatments I was tired of people asking "when are you going to have a baby?" It started the day we got married and most people knew we wanted kids right away...and man did people bug. I kept telling myself they don't know what you are going through..it's not their fault. BUT man is it annoying. I just wanted to say "you know what? There is nothing more I'd love, but getting pregnant isn't easy for everyone" or something along those lines. mostly I'd say something, "Whenever God chooses to bless us" or "We are working on it..and let's be honest, practicing is the fun part.."
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Now with a 2.5 year old, I hear CONSTANTLY "are you having anymore?" "When are you having another?" "You know, if you want another, you should do it now, you don't want them too far apart" Blah blah blah.
I have parents constantly asking me at school (I'm a teacher) and I just really want to snap and say "What business is it of yours? Do you just want to know if I'm going to be absent for your son/daughter's year so you can request another teacher?" I've never actually said that or anything like it, but it really frustrates me. I've been honest with some people and said something to the effect of "You know, I'd really love another. We are truly blessed with Mason, but we have infertility issues so we'll see what happens" It's actually kind of impowering in a way...but no less frustrating.
I guess I'm in a pissy mood today from being asked one too many times. Heck, even the cardiologist we had an appointment for Mason said, "Is he an only child? Why dont' you have another one yet? He's already 2 and half?" My answer? "I'd love one,but unless you have some donor sperm and a turkey baster in your drawer or do inferitilty treatments on the side, we are out of luck for now." Oops. Maybe it's PMS. Another joy.