I can't believe she said that!
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|Wed, 08-25-2010 - 6:40pm|
Ok so I was at work today. There is a woman there who works part time who unfortunately knows my IF secret. Not by my choice she just happened to be around during my m/c. Well today was the first day we really have talked since my terrible RE experience. (For those of you who don't know my RE basically told me I was too fat for them to help me and they would not even consider doing anything for at LEAST 4 more months assuming I could lose at LEAST 20lbs in that time). So I told her what had happened and she told me well it was easier for me to lose weight at this age anyway. That made me upset. I have struggled with my weight my whole life so it is not like I have not been trying. Unfortunately it is not that easy.
Then she said that DREADED statement "This is just from one old mother to a young girl but you just need to relax. I know if you relax things will happen" It was all I had not to shout at her! I slowly turned and said "I am not ovulating so no matter how much I relax I won't get pregnant without ovulating" She just made me SO mad. Like somehow I am responsible for this not happening because I simply am not relaxed enough. I wanted to ask her if anyone or anything stood in the way of her having a baby. Because if not she had NO idea what I was going through and would not give me awful advice like that. I just hate that people think that is a good suggestion. If only they could understand how hurtful that statement is.
Sorry this was a long ramble but I knw you ladeis will understand how upsetting this can be.
"Even miracles take a little time." ~ Fairy Godmother: Cinderella
M/C November 2009
Metformin December 2009
Clomid #1 50mg April 2010 = no O :-(
Clomid #2 100mg May 2010 = BFN
Clomid #3 150mg July 2010 = BFN