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Registered: 02-17-2004
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Wed, 05-05-2004 - 1:35pm
Is there something wrong with me? I have never had an orgasm during sex. I just can't. The only way I can have one is through masturbation and that takes me at least 20 minutes. Last night I had a date with this guy and we had sex 3 times. Of course no orgasm for me. He says he feels inadequate even though I kept telling him it was me not him. Don't get me wrong I enjoyed it but I just couldn't get "there". Is this normal for some people or is there something wrong with me? Now I am afraid that he will stop calling me. I wouldn't blame him. I feel the need to add that I do have a quite extensive sexual abuse history. I really don't feel that that has anything to do with it though. Any ideas or suggestions? Please help!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: girl1_boys2
Wed, 05-05-2004 - 11:39pm

Hi hon,


There is absolutely nothing abnormal going on...the majority of women don't have orgasms through intercourse.

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